After my divorce I was scared to get back out there. I bought a yoga DVD and started learning at home to become more flexible.
Part of yoga is breathing control. This works fantastic, I now last 15 to 45 minutes, or as long as I like, where I was lucky to last 3 to 5. I can tell when I stop yoga for a month or more, my performance suffers.

Yeah, but how long do you last with a woman?

Sorry, I couldn't resist. Not enough coffee yet. If you don't mind me asking, Do you think these changes make for better potential relationships or are they more impactful for your personal confidence and self esteem?

Yeh you caught me, with my mail order panties in hand.

I think confidence and self asteem go a long way to creating a great relationship. When a man is confident, it allows him to concentrate on the other person, and I don,t care what anyone says a woman will be happier if she reaches orgasm. I believe that sexual fitness is a big part of satisfying sex.
Well say goodnight, I have to switch hands.

Agreed!
Yoga is fantastic and has many side effects, all good.

We have found yoga great for all parts of life including our sex life, better focus, relaxation and flexibility. We are enjoying Kundalini Yoga which is great for channeling energy to all the right places and strengthening all the right muscles. Right now it is Pregnancy Yoga for her as she is not midway through with twis expected in March.

You should look into tantra, which is the sexual version of yoga. I can't even touch my toes, so yoga is darned near impossible. We did have a very gentle instructor come to our shop and do a private once, which was really nice.

Freddy, Great suggestion. I have done some reading on it but nothing beyond that. Thanks for the suggestion. BTW, really enjoy the message boards - it is a great group of interested people

Cheers

I agree with Freddy... definitely Tantra

quote:

Originally posted by Glamourous Granny:
I agree with Freddy... definitely Tantra

Inasmuch as I'll be the very last one to argue against Tantric Yoga (it's a great training aid, and they have some amazing moves), that's not actually the point. The point is breath control and self-control. The breath control is largely useful in enhancing self-control. Back when such things were never spoken of openly, and being a geek, I used to use a fairly simple trick. Calculate PI in my head.

It was only possible for a time - eventually the *ahem* distractions got so effective I couldn't think straight anymore, but it served the function. I worked out the math while I was a virgin, and my very first time I lasted almost 15 minutes. Now, in my dotage, I can last for hours.

Sex, however, is a skill and an art-form. You can train yourself to be better. Math tricks and Trantric Yoga are both nothing more than means to an end. They are ways of teaching yourself to be a better lover. When you are that, then you require neither.

Don't give it up, though. Much of the art of sex is in diversity. How many ways can you please your lover? I've never found out the answer to that question. I expect it's exactly the number of lovers that exist at any time.