Hi y'all
I could really use some advise! My husband and I have great sex and I almost always have multipe orgasims. So what's the problem? It's always him making love to me (the same way) and how many times he can make me cum. I know, I'm an ungrateful wench! Well, I want to turn the tables and make him lose control...I don't think there's anything sexier than having your man so turned on that he sinks anything he can into you (teeth, cock, etc.)as hard as he can because he can't stop himself. This is where I need advice: he is so ticklish that I can't hardly touch him and he doesn't have any fantasies or fetishes that I could use. Any ideas?

Puff,

If I had a nickel for every woman I know with your problem...I still would not have change for a dime!
However there are many of us on F&E who cannot resist a challenge.

One thing I would recommend is taking charge of the encounter by first talking to your husband about it. I don't want to sound like Dr. Phil here but point out that as great a lover as he is it would heighten your pleasure to be able to give as good as you get. I would think any man so intent on giving his woman that kind of pleasure would understand and respond. My husband loves it when I take charge for a night.

Go out to dinner and dress sexy. Tell him over drinks you are not wearing any underwear. Let him think about that. Rub his dick under the table while the waitress is telling you about the specials. Tell him what you are going to do to him later. Go dancing and grind against him. If you have a private table unzip his pants and jack him a little bit but once he is getting close stop and zip him back up. Flash him and, if you are daring enough and he is not the jealous type, flash someone else. Go down on him while you are driving home, once again stopping once he is on the edge. When you get home undress him completely but keep your clothes on. Talk dirty to him about the night. How the cool air on your bare pussy made you wet, your nipples brushing against the cloth made them erect, strangers staring at you on the dance floor etc. If that doesn't make him tear your clothes off and jump you then try something else next time. It should be a fun exploration until you find the right recipe.

Keep us informed on your progress and do you rent him out for the night?

silkpanties,
Thank-you so much for the obvious consideration you've given my dilema ! My husband and I have talked in depth about me taking control and trying new things, he just hasn't had any suggestions to help me (the reason I found this terrific site!). I love your idea about a night out together, even bought the remote control vibrating panties (the only thing he has shown a specific interest in), but we just don't have time (I'm in nursing school, he works and goes to night school, and we have a child). You said you love a challenge ! As far as renting him out for a night: only if I get to come along Goodbye to the days of inhibition!

God, just reading that got me going! Silk your my hero!

If that don't work for him, Silk can practice on me till we figure it out!

Yaaaa Hoooooooooo, Ride Me Cowgirl!!!

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Yea I walk threw our bedroom with a big thick dick in my hand, but I do not fear, for I have the Biggest, Bad-ass, Most controlled, Aim to satisfy, Sex craved, Work it all night, Multiply shooter, long swinging pussy whimper in the bedroom!

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The bedroom is my domain!

I know I always wanted Eddy to ravish me, so I bought restraints, a blindfold, and some nipple clamps myself and made her enslave me! It was so cool and sexy and she was in total control (after all, what can a man do when he's handcuffed and blindfolded?).

Another thing we like to do is I'll sit back in our puffy, comfy chair and have her give me a show, like I'm a patron and she's my lap dancer. I can't touch, only she can; she can guide my hands, but I can't make the move myself (like in a club, where you'll get kicked out for aggressive behavior).

Puff,

Well at least I was able to give Chance some ideas

You said that your sex life was great so despite your hectic schedule you have been able to create some private time for the two of you which is good. Just not enough to go out on the town I guess. I have never tried the remote vibrating panties although seems like I read a review about them from Freddy & Eddy somewhere on the site. The only thing about those it would seem once again he is in control of your pleasure.

With the time constraints I like both of Freddys suggestions. Do you think he would be willing to let you tie him up? I really like the lap dance idea.

Another thought I had was maybe do some of your nursing school homework on him. I know it is a serious learning situation but pretending he is your patient and practicing sponge baths, temperture taking, body exams, and lord knows what other skills you need could be fun. Especially if nurses uniform is somewhat less than regulation.

We also may need you to check Chance's blood pressure from time to time. We know there is nothing wrong his circulation

Keep us informed

Wow, these ideas are terrific. In fact, I can't wait to try them all, I suppose I should pace myself .
silkpanties,
Don't you dare think you haven't been helpful!!I loved your idea and don't think I won't use it the first chance I get to go out with my husband .
Thanks everyone!

I'll tell you what makes me go absolutely NUTS. Eddy parading around in front of me in underwear like this. I don't know what you call this style, but I just think it's SOOO sexy!

Funny you should recommend those panties. I recently bought several in that style from Victoria's Secret and my husband has the same reaction! I love that style because not only is it sexy, but it is alot more comfortable to wear than a thong. So my husband always see me in something appealing.

Eddy bought a bunch of them as well and I've now instituted a "panty-only" policy beginning each night after our little one goes to sleep With the weather warming up, no excuses are tolerated and the rules are strictly enforced!

Ohhhh, an authority figure! I hope Eddy is properly chastised when disobedient

T < !--color--> hose infamous panties are called "Tanga" style. What's so great about them is that they are very comfortable, leave no panty lines and makes everyone's butt look beautiful. I got turned onto them from my dear friend Jenn at www.hiddenself.com. Sometimes the simplist item can turn you into a sexy goddess. Work with it women! < !--color-->

Puff no need to pace yourself...sustained wild abandon is very fetching...just keep up the fluids and high energy foods. 203 Ways To Drive A Man Wild In Bed by Olivia St.Claire is worth working your way through!

It's a great question and a "noble" pursuit, this idea of driving your partner wild with lust appeals to me. Hold on , what I mean is my partner, you with yours, me with mine...not at the same place or time...oh, you know what I mean!

I've tried to think over the last few days what it is that triggers the "lose control" response in my sweetie. Here's a couple of elements if you like.Sometimes the lose control moment is a combination of any of these...

• Novelty/something unexpected - a surprise, a new move or technique
  
  Anticipation/tension/build up-juicy kisses in the morning with a promise for the evening, long , unhurried lovemaking that takes us both to the very edge many times over
  
  Something forbidden/lewd/wicked -a stolen moment,explicit words spoken in normal tones in inappropriate places
  
  Engages the senses- shiny wet/lubed up skin,the scent of an aroused pussy, hot talk,sexy clothes,wonderful food,wine kisses,

Take the "lap dance" idea a little further...Have him sit in his chair or on a couch, or perhaps sitting up in bed, then masturbate slowly for your partner, bring out the exhibitionist and show him exactly where and how you like to be pleasured. Tell him and demonstrate in explicit detail how you play with yourself when you're alone,let him lick your fingers. A playful twist on this is to really go to town on the visuals, use lube (we love Eros Bodyglide) to make your skin shiny, rub it in to your breasts and vulva then make the most of some creative lighting. I've recently used a very innocent looking reading lamp to great effect to stage a very private show. Have fun.

Acutally, there's a healthy dose of selfishness involved in my desire to "make him lose control" because it would boost my self-confidence. Like alot of women, I've allowed a distorted body image rule my sex life by rejecting my husband's advances or not initiating sex even though I really wanted to. Needless to say, I got fed-up with this so, with a little effort and alot of embarassment, I've overcome this issue and it's now my libido and not a neurosis that decides when and where I have sex!
So the "noble" part of this endevour is to show my husband how much I desire and love him. Wow, talk about over sharing! Oh well, y'all now understand why I've bombarded the board with all the questions
Anyways, the point I was trying to get to was: I'm not sure I could pull the lap dancing off, just yet.

I wish every woman on earth would read this post, Puff. You have distilled the essence of the most fundamental sexuality problem in women into a concise couple of sentences. Better than I've ever read (and I've read a zillion books and visited a zillion message boards all over the web by now). Thanks.

As far as the lap dance goes, from all you've posted around here, I have NO doubt you'd not only pull it off, but have him begging on his hands and knees for more