hi. i tried anal sex for the first time last week. but it left me confused. yes he used lube on me. he was turned on but his penis was not fully erect while inside of me. is that normal in all cases? even he told me why he had trouble putting his penis in, beacause it just wasnt getting hard enough weird? and it took us hardly 15 minutes to start and finsh it. how much time do all couples take for anal??

In most cases, anal really won't work if not fully hard due to the tightness of the sphincter muscles in the anus. It makes penetration very difficult.

As far as time goes, I'm sure it varies widely. For us it usually starts with some playing around to get the muscles relaxed and then actual penetration only lasts 5-10 minutes usually due to her achieving orgasm and then not having it feel as good afterwards.

Maybe he had a bit of performance anxiety - nervous since it was your first time having anal. Have you been together and/or having sex for very long?

yp two years. HJFAN you'r prolly right, he must have been nervous.

Nerves can definitely be a huge factor. Shoot, a long time ago I had a girl offer to blow me until I came and if it wasn't for me lending a helping hand she'd probably still be trying.

next time offer to slick on the lube for him...a few slick sliding strokes and he should be hammering nails with that thing.