by myself or with anyone else. help? i feel like i've tried everything and once i get to that point where i feel like i am going to, it just disappears or gets too sensitive to where it doesn't feel good.

Welcome to the forum Laura.
Apparently the miracle orgasm tool out there is the Eroscillator. Never tried it myself, but it seems to do wonders.

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it just disappears or gets too sensitive to where it doesn't feel good.

use lube on your fingers, and give that clit a workout...stay after it, it'll happen. i had a girlfriend who claimed she'd never orgasmed, and was all into giving blowjobs, much more than having intercourse. i lubed up and stayed with it for what seemed like 30 minutes, but she finally had an orgasm. they came much easier after that. sometimes these things are emotional as much as physical. relax.....

Hello! Just relax and let it happen. If you're worried about making a mess or something, make sure that you have a towel handy. Maybe bring yourself to the edge a few times and when you're good and riled up, finish off! It could also be that you're paying too much attention to your clit and you're overstimulating. Try rubbing the side of it or using your vibe on the side or through a thin towel like a wash cloth. Some ladies are ultra sensitive so this can work well. Above all, don't force it, just relax and let it...ummm....come

actually these all seem like really good ideas. i guess i do get so stressed out about it happening i forget to just relax.

That's awesome, lauraj! Let us know how it works out

Oh, I thought of one more thing. I've never tried it, but some ladies swear by fancy movable multisetting shower heads. Maybe that will help too!

okay i have been experiencing the feeling of my vagina contracting and it feels good and it's hard to concentrate on anything else. my boyfriend says this is an orgasm but it feels like i should know for sure. ughhhhh this is so frustrating!

Sounds like one! Don't be frustrated, it seems like you're on the right track. Sometimes they come when you want them too, sometimes they sneak up on you, and sometimes they surprise you. It's always different, but all enjoyable.

You really have to experiment and find what works for you without fixating on orgasm and worrying about it. As an example, one ex of mine could get off from intercourse but it was typically difficult. However, she was a huge fan of the Hitachi Magic Wand and claimed that it always worked for her. Who knows what your thing is? But have fun finding out -- that's the whole point!