My gf and I have had some serious issues over the past 4 years because of our difference in desire. We've done some counseling recently and it has helped somewhat. She really is trying but I know that I am a typical oversexed Scoprio who equates sex with some mystical, passionate quest. She is an overanalytical Catholic Libra who hasn't learned how to truly let loose.

I've done a lot of research and the whole g-spot thing intrigues me. I bought a DVD and some books that claim that this is the secret to drive her insane with pleasure.

Before I bring the subject up with her, I'd like to get some input on whether the whole g-spot thing is really all it's cracked up to be. She comes every time with oral and about 25% of the time with intercourse, but I'm a passion junkie and I would love to find a way to bring out this side that I've yet to see. Help!!! Would love to hear guys and girl's points of view on this!

Hi deepvoice (great name, by the way) --

We've had a couple of rollicking good discussions about g-spots on this board in the past year, so I definitely suggest that you search some of them up. One thing to remember is that not all g-spots are created equal -- it is not the magical, mystical orgasm button that it was advertised to be during break-time discussions at my high school. Some women get a lot from g-spot stimulation, and it makes others feel slightly sick to their stomachs, with all shades of grey between. I love it when it's done just right, but I'm the only one who can do it just right. I would encourage you to encourage your gf to do some self-experimentation before you go to town on her. The g-spot can be reclusive, and I think it helps for a woman to be familiar with hers before she can instruct her lover on how to use it to his advantage.

Hope this helps,

dp

Hey DP, that's the weirdest thing. My wife often complains that sex makes her nauseous. Not that she wants to throw up at the thought of just having sex with me but she says that she actually gets a overwhelming sick to her stomach feeling when she cums. I just figured that she was hyperventillating because she tells me she often finds that she's holding her breath but I'm wondering if it may be something else now that you've mentioned it. I do notice that this particularly happens after cumming during intercourse. This may lend to why she doesn't like it so much. I don't like spinning rides at amusement parks, it doesn't make me want to jump on one just to show that I love my wife. lol



And deepvoice, I too tried to find that one technique that was going to make her want sex all of the time and it didn't work; there's so much more to it than that. In a similar situation as you, I searched the internet high and low for help. I found a support group on an iVillage message board. The group is called �Clashing Libidos� and it is filled with people like us who are frustrated because our sexual appetite is not compatible with our partner�s. You�ll find many here who have High or Very Low libidos and seek advice on coping in the relationship. Maybe it will give you more insight.



Here�s the link: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlclashing/?ctx=128

You seem a bit down on sex, never mind the G-spot.

Let me assure deepvoice and everyone else who hasn't tried yet that it can be very rewarding. G has found our recent exploration of the G-spot very much to her liking. This started after reading the info about female ejaculation here at freddy and eddy. Big turn on! So we got down to it with some mixed results (no-ejaculation and no stupendous orgasms). Then eperimenting one night with G lying on her front and just a single finger in her making a horse shoe stroking motion of her G-spot things started to take off. Just concentrating on the G-spot seemed to be far more pleasurable for her and I could feel it react to every movement. After her first orgasm she was beging for another so I went for two fingers but again just concentrating on her G-spot. This really did it for her and she just kept aking for it harder and faster. I have never given it to her that vigourously before and I was scared she might get hurt, but I needent of worried. she had an incredibly powerful orgasm which lasted for far longer than normal.

My only disapointment was still no ejaculation. But with results like these it's fun to keep trying.

Any tips on how to bring the gush on?

J

Have to just add that J was 'spot on'! We have been trying out g-spot stimulation for years, it has been good, but only since seeking clarification on technique (courtesy of freddy and eddy)have the results been outstanding! The sensation associated with the g-spot orgasm is different to other types of orgasm and not just in intensity.
And finally a word of encouragement, things rarely run smoothly in any type of relationship, but, in my experience, it is always worth persevering and talking about issues.

G

I'm not down on sex. My wife is just broken that's all. We're both trying to work through it.

She has had G-Spot orgasms. The first time it happened we were both shocked. We weren't aiming at all, it just happened. She's the second woman I've been with that had one while straddling me. It's very cool. The first time it happened to me I thought the woman pissed all over me. I was like, "damn that's cool, gross but cool". She explained what happened being a bit more experienced than myself. When it happened to my wife, she was embarrassed so I explained it to her. Then we both thought it was cool. It had only happened a few times in our 8 years together and never happened when we tried. Each time I stimulate her G-spot however she claims that it gives her a nauseous feeling afterward. I didn't think anything of it until it appeared in this thread.

Glad to hear you aren't down on sex.

I have to say I am jealous, as I would love to experience this. We have been trying again and although it is very pleasurable and great to see G enjoying herself so much I would really get off on her ejaculating.

As they say practise makes perfect. So I will keep practising.

J

At the sake of sounding stupid if you are "in her" when she cums from a G-spot Orgasm it's not gonna shoot everywhere right??? So how do you know if she's just cumming or you've hit the spot??
DAmmit I've even confused myself!

The ejaculation actually comes from the urethra which is why it's often confused with urination so it's entirely possible to have her ejaculate even if you are inside of her.

The Alexander Institute has a great DVD about toys that we're reveiwing and one of the best scenes in there shows a woman ejaculating during play with a clitoral vibe and a g-spot vibe at the same time. Very intense and erotic to watch!

Thanks Buck. much clearer now!

What did I say? Practice makes perfect!

Deepvoice the answer is, the G-spot is definately the place to go.

And as for the ejaculation - can't put the turn on into words.

Well Deepvoice, J was wrong, practice had not made perfect. Last night however, it would appear that practice did produce considerable results!
I am unsure of just how much detail is acceptable on such forums, so for the moment I shall keep this short and sweet.
J and I have also been undertaking some research on the topic of G-spot orgasms and in particular how to achieve female ejactulation. To be perfectly honest I really did not believe what we were seeing-surely that is not possible. I can ensure you it is entirely possible and feels fantastic. I suppose we hve not yet reach perfection with this technique, as I have no control over what is happening and have to just 'go with it'. I would encourage you to give it a go, it's fun trying!
G

Ranger and I still need to practice. A lot more.

We just never seem to get the practice time in.

Hmmmmmmmmm...

(hint hint)
~Ang

Quit giving him hints and demand that time is made!

Seriously, it is something which we have found seems to require alot of practice and tends to be time consuming, but is definately paying off. Much fun is being had by all!

G

I'm a bi female, and I find lots of women like their gspots stimulated. Sometimes I just reach in and squeeze upwards on it (a spongy little pillow), and I put a lot of strong upwards pressure while I lick them. Some love it swished side to side, slow and steady (I love that myself). Some like it in and out with the fingers, almost like a dick is in there. We were with another couple recently; she was blowing my hubby and the other man started giving it to his wife from behind. I reached in with my fingers (next to his cock) and rubbed her Gspot while he was fucking her. She started moaning like crazy (which made my hubby come; he loves a hum job) and she then came hard and fast! (How many men here are pitchin' a tent now?! Gosh, sometimes I love my life!)

Anyway, back to the Gspot...for some women it stimulates their bladder. Suggest your lady empty her bladder before coming to bed.

Better than Gspot...I love to have my cervix stimulated BEST, better than clit. That's why I love intercourse so much with deep penetration (but not too much slamming). I love when a man grinds deeply into me. Mmmmm!

If you don't know where the cervix is, find it now! Easiest if your lady lies on her back with knees up to chest (which shortens the vagina). When you slip fingers to the END of the vagina there is a bump at the end that feels kind of like a nose. That's the cervix. Sometime see if she likes it massaged, stroked, or poked with thrusting fingers (with nails clipped SHORT...and sometimes 2 fingers held close together makes a wider and less sharp "poker").

No matter what you do, lubricant always seems to make it feel even better if you are doing a lot of fingering and poking Down There. Even if she is already wet, that extra slippery feeling can be delicious.

Jen