Okay, the other night my boyfriend said he wanted to see me masturbate for him. I said I would if he would. Okay, we're on, but now how to go about it, especially without it being this clinical, okay, let's do this? And because he is not a fan of hair, I totally have shaved myself for him, which I'm hoping will be a great surprise for him. This is more about being self-conscious and being afraid of looking silly, because it just seems it would. Should I let him start on me and without saying anything, I take over? Do I start the whole thing off? What's hotter, hands-on or vibrator? For the women, what did you do that your guy really liked and the same for the guys, what did she do that just turned you on? Just lookin' for a little guidance. Thanks so much!

Oh, girl, I wanna watch!!

I would tease him. Put on some sexy music, light some candles, keep your legs closed tight, while you played with your breasts, get those nipple good and hard, pulling on them.
Then ease into playing with pussy. Keep yourself hidden, slowly revealing your pussy. Have a little oil nearby, and ask him to help you pour some on, but don't let him touch you. Make it long and slow, stroke awhile before you get down to business. Rub and pull on your clitorus. Put your fingers into your pussy, playing. I would come without a vibrator first, and then pull it out and drive yourself nuts with it.

Could I watch?

Go

Oh, this is SOOOO easy and SUCH a turn on. First, don't think of these as separate acts - masturbate for each other at the same time. What we do is have Eddy lay on her back and I straddle over her on my knees, my cock positioned right over her breasts. She can reach between my legs to her clit and we masturbate simultaneously, sometimes taking pauses to caress each other (I can simply reach back and finger her while I stroke myself at the same time, she can feel my nipples or stroke with me while using her other hand on her clit). She can even integrate a small vibe, such as a Layaspot, Fukuoku, or Pocket Rocket, on herself and around my sensitive areas to heighten things.

I can answer this with quite a bit of personal experience. I used to be terrified of masturbating in front of anyone. Ranger was the first I actually did it for.

There are several ways you could go about this.

First, you could get used to touching yourself during sex, when it's not so much about masturbating but more about getting that extra bit of pleasure. Once again, it took me a lot of effort to even try this for several reasons: a) I didn't want Ranger to think he wasn't pleasuring me enough, b) I didn't want to do something 'wrong', and c) the Catholic upbringing in me frowned upon it. Luckily for me, when Ranger saw my hands inching toward my clit once, he mentioned how hot he was getting thinking about me touching myself while he was inside me. It made for some incredibly steamy sex.

Second, you could go the quasi-voyeur route. Set up a chair in your closet or someplace where you can't easily see it. Get in the shower before you expect him and leave him a note saying to head straight for the chair, get comfortable, and make sure you have a box of tissues handy for him... In the shower, concentrate on making yourself feel sexy and relaxed. Once you're relatively certain he's situated, head straight from the shower (you don't even have to dry off that much if you don't want) to the bed (or couch or floor or wherever you've decided this will be easiest for you) and start thinking whatever sexy thoughts you can. If you'd like, putting lotion on all over your body can be a good icebreaker for your own roaming hands. Have a little bit of water based lube to use as lotion for your lips (particularly nice if you've just shaved, too!!) and enjoy from there. Don't think about the guy in the closet, concentrate on yourself and what feels good. Explore yourself. Even if you're a veteran at masturbating, it's good to start from scratch once in a while and rediscover the parts of yourself you haven't paid attention to other than the cursory yearly exams. You'll enjoy yourself and he'll get to witness a beautiful experience.

Thirdly (and finally for this post before Freddy notices I'm writing a novel again), you can always start lying next to each other, stroking the other person. Place your hand over his for a little bit, guiding his motions, and then move it underneath his so he can feel your hand moving. With your other hand, move his hand to his cock. Linger over his hand for a bit so you can relish the feeling of each stroke, then lean back to concentrate on yourself. Watching your partner masturbate while you're doing the same can be a HOTASHELL experience. Ranger and I enjoy it every once in a while for a wonderful change of pace.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes.
~Ang

Like the novel-writing Froggie, we sometimes do this instead of having actual sex for a change of pace. I'm sure she'll agree the next night after is that much better!

This is just awesome.

I agree with Freddy in making it a interactive experience. For example my husband will be whispering in my ear about a past experience or fantasy. Maybe his, maybe mine. He will sort of act out what he says. For example if he says "Then he kissed down your neck and chest and captured your erect nipple between his lips" he will then kiss my breast. What's nice about this method is he can tell from my reactions when I'm close to climax and pace the talk accordingly. Then I do the same for him. It is a really nice experience and routine breaker.

If his fantasy is more towards the peeping tom then Frog's suggestion about a closet is excellent.

I think I know what we are going to do later

Personally, I like sidling up next to the wife, both of us naked on the bed, in front of an adult movie. With us already stripped to the bone (so to speak), it's not hard (this is too easy) to see how your partner is responding to the activity on screen. Before beginning the movie, give your partner the green light to enjoy it just as they would if they were alone. In a matter of time nature just takes its course and you don't have to wait for your partner to be ready to begin. Man, I'm shifting in my chair right now just thinking about it.

Okay, first off, after reading your replies... have mercy! haha! I love every idea y'all gave and it's funny how narrow a thought can be on something. That's what I really like about this forum, thanks for expanding the mind. I can't wait to try all those! And just a side note, I'm really digging being hair-free! Lying on my back looking down, it looks like the top of a heart with a butterfly emerging... really cool!

Hmm, a picture might help us get a little better idea of that visual. Just send to freddy@freddyandeddy.com and I'm sure he can share it on here for you

Gee Buck! Give the woman a little time to get to know us. You don't want her to think we're into porn or something, do ya?!

What great ideas that everyone has thrown out for her and for everyone else! I like when I get to try a new vibe, and I'm in my candle lit room on my nice comfy bed. After I've done my test run, I call out to Freddy to get off the computer and come in. When he walks in, he gets a whole lotta eye candy! Scorpiogirl, you need to let your man just watch you play with yourself or your toy, and let the lust just get him to the brink of exploding. Trust me, you and your man will get the best lovin' after 10 minutes of you playing with yourself. Have him join you either masturbating or getting down and dirty. Fun! Fun! Fun!

I never did it for anyone until my current husband...and we are SWINGERS. That's how much I don't really like masturbating for others.
Here's why: I don't do it in the nice "lay on your back and twiddle your clit" way. I lay on my stomach and hump my hand/fist on the outside. I know other women do it this way, but it's not what you see in movies and such.

The reason I will "do myself" with my husband is that he comes a bit too soon for me, and I always do come, but sometimes it's not enough. So sometimes he lays on his back and I like to suck and lick him while I lie next to him (but facing his feet). And I masturabate will he finger fucks me, and I like/suck his dick. He really, really gets excited with this and I always have a VERY BIG orgasm that is totally satisfying.

If it wasnt' for this, I am sure I still would not masturbate in front of him. Coz like I said, I was married before and had lots of lovers (men and women) and I never would get myself off this way in front of anyone else.

Jen

OMG. I'm getting dizzy. I think all of the blood just left my head.

I'm with Hubby - I'm feeling faint. More, please...

I am a little late in answering this question. Once my husband and I video taped just each other's genitals and hands as we masturbated. It was exciting while we did it and exciting when we replayed the tape! Then as usual we erased it. We should do that again.

I have been around for a couple of years - nice to see how the site has grown!