So I had never went down on the wife until just several months ago. I have always heard that it was nasty and disgusting from other men and having a high gag reflex I never even really thought about it much.

Well I was trying to suprise her one day and I decided to give it a try.

Wow I was missing out. Now Songchick really does prefer penetration, but it is a great warmup because I cab get her to come several short intense orgasms and I get to enjoy the taste and smell (never thought I would).

One of the problems we have though is that while she is jacking me as I eat her, her shoulder starts to hurt from supporting her body.

Any ideas on this?

Any tips for possitions or techniques? This is rapidly becoming a new hobby for me! I really hope to get to a point where she is as orgasmic on my tongue as she is on my cock.

Try doing the two events separately - G. and I both enjoy 'going down' on the other one but it is rare we do so together... when I am giving him a BJ that is my total focus, when he is down on my my yoni and clit are his focus. I know 69 is meant to be wonderful but we reckon it is better as two separate dishes

My can try laying on your sides during the mutual act. It works for me and my wife. Or, if you have good self control, you could try being the one on top. (I tend to get very 'twitchy', so it doesn't work for us.)

Thanks MWSIE,

Mixed our "routine" up a bit I supprised her with a side style, it wasn't the best, but it was unxepected and hot!

I am reviving an old thread with a slightly different angle. Contrary to many women it seems my wife does not find oral stimulation all that pleasurable and so for a number of years has not been part of our repetoire. I am certain that I have contributed to this when we were younger my skills and patience were not what they are today. However, my wife gets really uncomfortable if I make a move to please her that way. She is embarrassed to talk about it but I think it is a combination of fear, distrust, and probably that she considers it "dirty". For the ladies out there do you have any suggestions on how I can approach this with her so that she feels safe enough to relax and begin to enjoy a little oral pleasure?

Cheers, CGD

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Originally posted by cgd:
I am reviving an old thread with a slightly different angle. Contrary to many women it seems my wife does not find oral stimulation all that pleasurable and so for a number of years has not been part of our repetoire. I am certain that I have contributed to this when we were younger my skills and patience were not what they are today. However, my wife gets really uncomfortable if I make a move to please her that way. She is embarrassed to talk about it but I think it is a combination of fear, distrust, and probably that she considers it "dirty". For the ladies out there do you have any suggestions on how I can approach this with her so that she feels safe enough to relax and begin to enjoy a little oral pleasure?

Cheers, CGD

Not really about that, CGD. For such things, it's all about gentle. If she thinks it's 'dirty', or that she's 'ugly' "down there", then those are the things you have to get past. It won't be easy. For either of you.

The lower limit of comfort for any woman is about their belly-button for oral. There is a lot of fun to be had around the belly-button, plus all points north. Going south is going to be a bit of a trek, though.

Best advice, with her panties *on*, start making that trek. Start by going as far as her belly-button, and progressively inching southward. Very, very gentle. Very patient. You'll doubtlessly be doing the naughty quite a few times in the mean-time. That probably won't bug you a lot. The journey begins with but a step.

Eventually, you might find your tongue in the neighbourhood of her panties. Don't go for the scorch and sizzle. If you get to the waist-band, then start by gently licking *under* it. Just a little. Around her hips where the panty legs join up, and then down closer to you-know-where. Eventually, to a lick *there*.

That's where it gets important. When you finally get to the point where you lick her *there*, make sure she knows you *like* it. That's what she has to know. She has to know that her pleasure is your pleasure.

It's all about trust. She has to trust you enough to let you get there, and she has to know that you like being there. If she is certain of both, then you're good. If she doubts either, well, don't say I didn't warn you.

Maybe she is worried what you might think of while down there- wierd smell, taste ect.

Make an event of showering/bathing togther first, that way she knows that she is as 'fresh' as can be for you.

My 2 cents, you've gotten some good advice so far. The cleanliness issue was one for me in my younger, just married days. With age and wisdom I've gotten past that. But, I make sure that the last thing I do before going to bed is to "tidy up" just in case! I don't want to have to think about that in the midst of things.

Helpful hint to you guys, if we know you do the same it might help us to be more inclined to reciprocate oral pleasures.

One more thing, (I should be getting paid to promote this book!) Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman is a fantastic book, imho! Great advice regarding oral sex and other issues as well. But if your wife has hang-ups about oral being "dirty" or "sinful" this book addresses those issues from a Christian perspective and blows (pun intended! ha!ha!) that belief out the window. The book is great even for non-Christians too in my opinion. Good luck!

I greatly appreciate the thoughts and as you say it is a matter of trust and it is a work in progress. Communication and finding out what she is scared of and does/doesnt like, going it slow and feeling comfortable are the keys to the treasure.

Cheers CGD

Cock here. In my experience giving oral, it definately varies quite a bit from woman to woman and even over time. I know since the birth of our daughter Asian likes oral alot lot more than she did before. I guess the baby must have shaken something loose!

Some of my ex-gf's were into oral, and other it did nothing for. Just really variable too in terms of how much attention to put in certain areas as well.

Thus, my advice would be to definately communicate and see what she likes and does not like.

In the past, I never enjoyed oral. You know, it feels kinda funny and I always felt ENORMOUS pressure to orgasm. Then my brain would kick in with things like, "I should totally be cumming by now," "he can't be enjoying himself," "I'm sure I taste or smell funny" or whatever and that doesn't really help the whole enjoyment factor either.

Only in the past year or so have I actually REALLY enjoyed oral. I came to realize that I love to give oral and I enjoy every minute of it, so it would make sense that guys like to do it too. Once I came to understand that it wasn't necessarily about the orgasm but the experience itself I was able to relax and enjoy myself. And then the orgasms were unstoppable. It probably helps that the guy I'm seeing gives outstanding oral and LOVES to go down on me.

Jhereg gives some good advice on techniques for easing into it, but I really think it's important to understand why it makes her uncomfortable.

Moonkiss, I really enjoyed reading your post above because, I am sure that is exactly what is going inside her head as well as a few other things. It doesn't help that I have to help break a few yesrs of past history where in my youth I was a bit too energetic down there putting too much pressure on her or her on herself to orgasm. Patience, talking about it and finding a comfort level with sex in general is what we are working on. Thanks again, CGD

I've also noticed that when 69'ing happens with me and Jay, I tend to concentrate on the 'goods and bads' feeling wise for what Jay's doing and so i stop pleasuring him to find out what he can do to pleasure me as much as he's enjoying my experimentation. I find one and then the other works much better.

~Kathy~

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getting her a little higher off the bed makes oral sex much easier and with accessible hight i could get my tongue deeper into her vagina. i concentrate mainly on the clitoris. i gently suck it directly, and flicker my tongue over it's tip as i suck. she is very wet and i try to lap up her juices as i go. we used to 69 quite frequently, but as with the other posters, we found it more satisfying to take turns receiving all the attention. we are trying to get her to ejaculate...and we'll eventually get there. the fun's in the trying!!

reviving an old thread here......

how much time do you spend on cunnilingus? is there a point where it can be too much time?

we average about 30-40 minutes before she's ranting to have my cock inside her. is that unusual? my first wife hated receiving oral sex so 5 minutes was too long.....how do you feel about it?