Well here goes, I have been reading posts and forums for about 2 weeks looking for an answer so i would not have to post a question but to no avail. The problem lies here within. Hubby and I have been married for over 20 yrs and I have small clit orgasms but when i start to orgasm and the legs quiver, etc I start to cum and them almost as quickly I feel myself starting to cum again and I pull away physically roll over or push hubby away. How do i get myself to push past this to a greater orgasm??
The answer that comes to my mind most quickly is to physically restrain yourself, but that's not something the majority of people will/are willing to rush into. Hopefully other people can come up with some advice that's a smaller step.
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Posts: 82 | Location: Bay Area, CA | Registered: 01 February 2006
thanks snowshoe and we do have restraints here but I guess they were too loose and my wrists became unrestrained. We have just recently remedied this problem but have yet to try out the new ones. HEHE guess I was looking for a simpler answer than that one but if it works YEAH!!!!!
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I'm a control freak. I had to do it to myself (with a vibrator) before I could ever let anyone do it to me.
It's quite common to be afraid of or startled by those intense sensations, when it feels like you'll die if you go on. Even if you trust your partner completely, it can still be too much.
It might make you more comfortable with the whole thing if you're able to reproduce those feelings by yourself - at your own pace! Take your time!
Something that has helped with a couple of ladies I know is to do your best to relax when you start to push away (whether physically or emotionally). The whole point is to allow it to happen. You can ask your gentleman to slow down, or back off a little, and then when it comes back at you again try to go a little farther down the road. Most of us are in too much of a hurry (all the time--not just when making love). When trying to learn a new skill it often serves to just slow down a bit.
I, Kathy, have a similar problem only it just occurs when Jay is going to town on myself. I have no problem with giving myself 3 or 4 orgasms clit or otherwise but when it comes to him, i shy away.. any other tips besides the ones already given??
I have the same problem too, however mine is during intercourse. I'll come several times and he'll still be going(beer is the best Viagra in the world for him!) but I'll start to get uncomfortable and try to pull away, desperately so sometimes. I just can't handle goign farther, and it is frustrating to him because I stop him before he has come. I always feel badly for him, and we solved the dryness that usually accompanies it with Sliquid(thank you F&E!) but still, I cna't bear the sensation!! Any ideas? I can't easily restrain myself.
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Posts: 290 | Location: South Korea | Registered: 10 March 2005
what helped me the most was snoeshoe's suggestion. If you get to where you can't go anywhere then you really have no choice but to continue. I'll preface that with this thought; I will tell hubby when the sensations are getting too intense after I cum once and when I feel the urge again to pull away he will back off a bit and gently carress my clit so the sensations are not so intense again, building back up to the intense orgasm #2 I was trying to avoid. When he does this I find also If I tune out my mind to my surroundings it helps me somewhat. Kumara I don't know if this will help or not but if your fiance ( congrats on this wonderful news) is on top and gently holding your arms down where are you going to go? Just a thought. Hope this helps
