So a few months ago I saw a comedian talking about anal beads, and it brought to mind an old porn movie where a porn star who i thought was pretty stiff, pardon the expresssion, really got wild. Me and the wife were talking one night and i brought it up as something I would like to try with her. So one night she suprises me wuith a new set of beads and we gave it a try on her! Boom! Through the roof.

A few days later back to the toy store for a vibrating plug, now her favorite toy.

She has been asking for me to do the deed back there and I am a little afraid, for several reasons.

1. Health, both hers and mine
2. Um poo comes out of that, it cant be clean!
3. Smell
4. I read the KY story on the board
5. Once having had a fistula and knowing just how awfully painfull one can be I would never want anything like that to happen to her.

Looking for some tips, advise and safety rules.

LUBE LUBE LUBE!!!

Go slow and don't force.

Make sure she's relaxed.

Lube Lube Lube!!


You can always use a condom for anal, especially if you are going to also have vaginal intercourse, so you won't transfer bacteria.

If she's already enjoying anal play, it's likely that it won't be a huge deal to move the the real deal.

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Originally posted by moonkiss:
LUBE LUBE LUBE!!!

Go slow and don't force.

Make sure she's relaxed.

Lube Lube Lube!!


You can always use a condom for anal, especially if you are going to also have vaginal intercourse, so you won't transfer bacteria.

If she's already enjoying anal play, it's likely that it won't be a huge deal to move the the real deal.

Ditto ditto ditto!

You can start with a soft dildo or vibe, just to see how she reacts. I'm guessing that once you see how much more she loves that, you'll be very eager to slide in yourself.

I've done this many, many, many times with K, and cleanliness and smell have never been a problem. Not once. And we always wash up with anti-bacterial soap.

K loves it so much, she will ask for it when she wants it, and I'm only too happy to indulge her. She goes absolutely nuts. She's louder and more turned from this than anything else, and more likely to cum than with vaginal sex (though I believe this is unusual).

The people I know who had similar reservations forgot about them once they tried anal for the first time. When you're in the moment, you forget about everything else!

M!

um. I've read somewhere - i don't remember where - that it's a good idea to use an enema prior to anal sex. Is that recommended? Because though I read it once, most of the places where you get information from people who are really doing it, you never hear that.

I'd be willing to do so to make it more enjoyable for hubby-san - more clean.

Well, if you're fairly regular then you know when you'll be...ah....'full'...so really, you just need to choose your timing. We haven't had a problem with that, and it seems like a big hassle to go through if you don't need to. Still, if it makes you feel more comfortable, then by all means go for it. Nothing kills the mood faster than wondering about things like that.

As I once read:

Use more lube than you think you'll need. Then add some more.

We've explored some anal play, but it puts her off a little bit. There are some fears, mostly involving pain and being grossed out (though she's in no danger of grossing me out). It's just something that needs to be handled carefully if/when both of you are ready.

By the way, has anyone got any ideas for toys that might make dabbling in anal play a bit easier and less intimidating? I've been looking at the Flexi Felix that F&E have reviewed, but I wonder if maybe it'd be better to just stick to fingers to begin with.

We, too, have given the Flexi Felix a test run and found it full of wonderfulness.

It's also smaller than a finger so in my opinion better for beginner anal play.

So if you want my opinion (most don't, heh heh) I'd go Flexi Felix first, finger second, and then feasibly the Tantus Pro Touch third. After that, most toys (or penises) will go smoothly. I think.

~Ang

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By the way, has anyone got any ideas for toys that might make dabbling in anal play a bit easier and less intimidating? I've been looking at the Flexi Felix that F&E have reviewed, but I wonder if maybe it'd be better to just stick to fingers to begin with.

Whatever you use, make sure it has a flared end...those muscles are strong and designed to, um, pull things in. And that's how one becomes an ER horror story.

I've had a couple of experiences and it really isn't for me.

All I can say is once you go in, don't look down. Ewww....

I have a weak stomach, so I'll stick with vaginal intercourse.

Hmmm....wonder how the master cleansing thing would affect that?

Anotherhusbands reply has me a bit .....unnerved! Has anyone else had that problem?

If you make sure your bowels are empty there shouldn't be a problem - at least we haven't experienced one.

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Originally posted by Heroic:
Anotherhusbands reply has me a bit .....unnerved! Has anyone else had that problem?

While this is not something I have done on a regular basis, over the years we have done anal two or three times and have never had that problem.

Maybe Prez should answer the one about "coloring" but he has never said anything about it. I've never noticed his penis looking "off" colored afterwards. Of course we are big into anal and don't get turned off easily by anything.

The wife and I love anal. We discovered that she could have a FE while doing it. Been married about 10 years. NEVER had any "color" problem or smell or anything of the sort. We use lots of lube and usually get it ready by using fingers or butt plugs or such. Don't know what you are missing.