Question:
I have been with my boyfriend for three years and the sex has been great. Recently while we were having sex, I experienced something completely different than usual. It felt like I had to urinate very badly and my leg went numb but it felt unbelievable. However, every time we try to have it happen again, he cums. He says it is too hard to keep his penis that erect for so long. Apparently, he has to keep it more hard than usual. How can I experience it again? What was it? I thought I was having orgasms before, but is this a different kind or something? Is there a way to get to this point alone?

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hi

its been awhile since you posted this, so hopefully you somehow see this

what you experienced was female ejaculation.
its a wonderfully yummy and delicious thing,
that's way too "cloaked in mystery"

as a guy, i understand difficulties with not cumming. specially when the g spot and female ejaculation are involved

you women are putting out SO much energy it can be overwhelming

there are a few things i recommend.

if you guys interested or up to it - he can practice different techniques to strengthen his ability not to cum, or to orgasm without ejaculation so he can keep going

if this is not really his thing, then there are some things YOU can do

first, is to enjoy sex, like normal, where everythings getting super hot. before he comes, have him withdraw, and then stimulate you manually

trust me, this is still super sexy for him, and for you, you can get more stimulation and for longer

in the beginning it can take awhile to sort out what kind of stimulation you need, how long, etc... so give each other advice and feedback.

make it a playful exploration vs he's gotta get it right and make you cum

if you do this a few times, you should ejaculate again - and the more you do it and explore it, the easier it all is

my girlfriend can now ejaculate 3 - 4 times in a row, and a year ago it was still a mystical thing she experienced rarely

amazing stuff...

my girlfriend and I have recently posted a section on our website about this topic (including tips and exercises)

www.master-your-g-spot.com/female_ejaculation.html

hope this helps!

nathan
www.master-your-g-spot.com

there are also condoms out there that help him keep going (durex makes them).. and cock rings for him to stay hard.. keep trying!!

First off, I need this question answered. Do women really ejaculate that strongly EVER? I mean, on the porns, they are shooting across the room, I saw one where they had to towel off the camera and the camera man. I saw where some women are actually urinating, just to make it more explosive. Are we being fleeced by those "Splurging like a freakin hose" pornos?

On to the next pressing issue. I have always been able to splurge. Though mostly by accident. Recently we have begun to experiment on doing it on purpose, we tried everything, hasn't worked. Bought a new g-spot toy, only used it once so far, but no banana. Now, I realize I am probably putting too much pressure on myself. And we will eventually get it right.

I have not had much time to experiment by myself - and that seems to be a big key in splurging. I am going to have a kidless and husbandless weekend Man, that's going to be nice! Not the husband but the kid thing (Thank you Scouts Canada!). Anyway, hopefully I will be able to get some QT in then.

Now when I get so far, I swear I must be shooting something out, but it hasn't happened. It was said that it kind of had to be "milked" out. We tried it this way but it only seemed to make the feeling go away. I personally think it has something to do with the timing - too early or too late. But is removing either the fingers, penis, or toy really necessary? If it isnt blocking the urethra, would you still be able to splurge with penetration?

One more thing, I have been getting this crampy feeling after a session of g spot action. Does anyone else get this? It's not too bad, just a little annoying, maybe we just worked it too much? But then I think it must be in my head because I kind of have a penetration phobia.

Yeah, I know. I love sex so much, yet I don't like to stick things in my vagina. I only like penis' (penis's, penises, or pen-i?) in there. Fingers and other objects have always scared me. Yes, it is an actual phobia, what isn't? But I don't remember the name of it. It is a fear I face all the time. I am still working on leaving a tampon in for longer than 5 minutes. I get it in there good after going through 5 of them. Leave the bathroom, start doing something and I forget about it. Untill a little while later I think "Wow, I'm doing so good. I haven't even thought about that tampon......
that tampon....
There's a tampon in me....
there's something in me...
There's something in me and I've gotta get it out.....
I've gotta get it out right now!"

So needless to say I make myself a little sore by repeating this, and the feeling is kind of the same.

Now, I realized I have just opened myself up to a whole other discussion about my "penetration paranoia". And though it is something I would love to discuss with other women who have had it, I require no advice on curing myself. I was not sexually abused. I'm pretty sure I know what caused it. But that's a whole other topic. It's something I work on all the time, much like a person with irrational fears who must face them periodically does.

I just want to know if this crampy, sore feeling is normal? Especially if that area is not used to getting a whole lot of attention as it has recently.

we are new to the splurge. we've tried only twice and she splurged a minimal amount of fluid about 1-2 inches both times. we are thinking the may be all there is in her case because of taking so many antihistamines. we have to use a small amount of lube whenever we have sex.

i would like to hear from others who take antihistamines daily....do you splurge?

although I have not seen any literature on this I would surmise that as an anti-histamine dries out the mucus membranes in the nasal passages it would be a systemic reation by your body. Like the fact that alcohol dehydrates you and therefore may reduce the ammount of lubrication produced by the woman.

I would also like to hear more about this from others who have experianced this phenomonon.

My GF uses anti-histamines regularly for seasonal allergies and as such, more man made lube is required. Thank God For F&E!

maybe its safe to say, since its healthy that we all stay well hydrated. perhaps moreso important when were on antihistamines?

wonder if caffiene affects the mucous membranes ...


cheers
Nigel

Both coffee and tea can dehydrate you if drunk in large quantities.

I have had this happen a few times, always by myself. It was just so rare that I never thought I'd be able to make it happen more often. I have a tendency to try too hard at things and that just makes it impossible so I try not to do that and settle for what I get, haha.

Anyway, I may have to look into this further, thanks for the information.

Oh, and I wouldn't doubt that about caffiene. It does crazy things to you. I've had to stop drinking it recently and I feel a lot better and a lot of things are different.