My wife and I are in our 50's. We just started to masterbate in front of each other. I have no problem. My wife takes about 30 minutes to come. She almost gets ready to come and then looses it. She tried by her self with the same pproblem. We need to know more about clit stimulation. Any ideas? Please help

Hi rking
I'm 57 and have been masturbating for as long as I can remember... being told off and that I was bad had no effect, just made me make sure I didn't get caught! However, if I am reading your post correctly your wife has never done this before... so it is going to take her a little while to get used to the idea of stimulating herself. How do you stimulate her clit. when the two of you are making love? Whatever she enjoys you doing to her should be able to work for her by herself BUT and it is a big BUT if she has never masturbated before it could well take her a while to a) feel comfortable doing so and b) actually climax from masturbating. Also whilst most women can climax from clitoral stimulation for some women it is really difficult. Let her have time by herself to find out by playing what works and what doesn't, in other words just encourage her to have fun and see what happens.
If you think it would help to ask me more questions just PM me.

Glam Gran

Hey Granny,
Any info would be great! Do you suggest any curtain postions? It sounds like you could be some help. Which toys are the best?

Have you tried using a small vibrator? It might be the little "push" to get her over the edge.

I don't think there is any one way to masturbate... you just experiment until you find out what works for you. Freddy's idea of a small clit vibrator is a good one read http://freddyandeddy.groupee.net/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/340100012/m/6621051911 to get a few ideas. Also remember that whilst it has been considered okay and normal for boys to masturbate for years it has been considered an absolute no no for girls, if your wife has been told things like 'Nice girls don't touch themselves' since she was a pre teen it may take a while to get over the conditioning.

I'll also add that sometimes doing something in front of someone that for most of us is a private thing can be difficult. I know that for me it was very hard for me to orgasm when I masturbated in front of someone else. It's a regular part of sex play for me now, but when I was first starting to incorporate it...no go.

I would say to give her some time with it. And Freddy's suggestion of a small vibe could absolutely do the trick. And hell, there are times that I can't orgasm, even by myself with a vibrator...sometimes it just doesn't happen

Could be she's nervous too. Maybe some relaxation would help and then just slowly work her way there. You can even talk her through it too, maybe. If she feels awkward, it makes a difference sometimes. Hell, even when I don't feel emotionally right or awkward, I can't cum so easily.