Being a long time lurker and first time poster let me first say: wow! Freddy and Eddy's site has been a wonderful resource, and the humor, fun an honesty expressed on the discussion boards are amazing.

In anycase I was hoping for a bit of advice. I've been blessed in that my wife, while relatively sexually inexperienced is wonderfully playful, loving and erotic....especially anally. We both have enjoyed learning about and getting into mutual anal stimulation and for her anal sex. My problem, if you can call it that is that I am relatively new to g-spot stimulation and would love to intoduce her to g-spot orgasms.

In talking with her it seems that for her the best way to achieve g-spot stimulation oddly enough is through anal sex. Not that I am complaining - far from in fact. I just don't know quite how to proceed given that most of the literature out there about g-spot stimulation refers to direct manipulation. To put it bluntly is it possible for someone to have a g-spot orgasm through indirect stimulation? I ask because it seems that the times we have tried direct g-spot stimulation it has often been less than thrilling for her. My fingers, even with gloves and manicuring are bit uncomfortable, and it is has been difficult finding a position that "Mr. Winkie" hits the right area during vaginal sex. It really seems that anally is the way to go

If anyone has any thoughts or advice on the matter of anal g-spot stimulation I would really love to here about. The threads I have read on the g-spot have been great I just wish I had a bit better handle...or finger on things. This is especially true given that my wife can have a little difficulty on opening up and talking more indepth about what really drives her wild and what is more ho-humm.

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To put it bluntly is it possible for someone to have a g-spot orgasm through indirect stimulation?

It would certainly be difficult, as the mysterious g-spot is located within the front wall of the vaginal entrance. That would put a lot of space between the anal orifice and the g-spot, so I don't see how it's possible anatomically.

Have you tried using a toy angled for g-spot stimulation? There are several on the market - just look for something of appropriate and comfortable size that has an upturned tip, kind of like your fingers in a "come hither" position.

The stimulation should cause your partner to feel the urge to urinate (make sure she's gone to the restroom to ease her mind that she's not going to do so) and you do have to be somewhat "rough" on the area once you've reached the correct spot. Don't expect to see a giant gusher like in the porn flicks, or any ejaculation at all, for that matter, and be patient.

Well....hmmmm. That's what originally confused me about her statement as well. My first thought was that if I was managing do what she said then I must be really going to town so to speak given that we're talking about two separate organs and that the area we are talking about is on the anterior wall of her kitty.

Another issue is that the urge to urinate is not something she considers synonymous with pleasure regardless of whether or not she actually thinks she is going to or not. Yes, we have tried a couple of g-spot specific toys. Perhaps a little more online shopping and working on better communication are in order. BTW neither of us are expecting massive pornesque results, just a bit more fun, and on my part to provide her a little more pleasure.