Hi all. A newbie here. Maybe you experienced lot can point me in the right direction. Hubby & I have been having "regular" sex all these years. We've been wanting to learn new techniques to bring our sex lives into another dimension so we got the Better Sex series after reading on-line reviews. It was such an utter disappointment! The couples weren't attractive at all & were such a turn off for us. There was nothing "new" to learn too. Such a rip off!

So I pressed on in my search & stumbled upon your site while surfing & am really impressed. Am considering getting your basic lovers' pack. Will this "do it" for us in getting us on the beginners' right track?

I'm also interested in getting g-spot orgasms & ejaculations. The Better Sex series on the G-spot was not helpful at all as I couldn't find the spot! So, I'm hoping that the DVD included in the pack is explicit enough for me/us to learn how to get there!

BTW, has anyone viewed the New Sex Now DVD? Would the Lovers' Pack DVDs beat it hands down? I get the feeling I'm asking a very obvious question here!

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Hi Ling, and welcome from a fellow newbie. It sounds like you and your man are on the right track by simply being open-minded and trying new things. I've been in a great sexual relationship for 5 years, and all I can add is that its evolution is constant. We learn a little something from every book we read or video we watch. Some stuff is fantastic and some soon forgotten.

I do want to point out, however, that g-spots can be tricky things. Not all women find g-spot stimulation pleasureable or, according to my best girlfriend, particularly noticeable. Its great that you're expanding your sexuality this way -- keep playing! I'd just advise you not too get too disappointed if nothing really seems to work down there. I'd also advice you to give it a go yourself before having your lover work at it. I need finger-breaking pressure to get good really good stimulation there, and my lover simply can't do it for me.

All the more excuse to masterbate!

That's my two cents. There are many wiser and more experienced folks than me here, so I bet you'll get a whole bunch of advice!

dp

Hi Ling and Welcome to our little band of mischief makers!



Let me start with the video questions. The basic lover's pack includes a video called "Sexual Secrets," which is basically a collection of clips (6 hours worth) from the entire series, produced by Alexander Institute . Now, to say they will "do it" for you is kind of a hard call (ouch, sorry about the pun). The clips are very amateurish in nature, of varying degrees of explicitness, and have really questionable music in our opinions. Still, if you can get past the cheesiness of it all, there are some pretty hot interludes sprinkled throughout, especially those containing a gal named Charlie and her very handsome husband. She's an ex porn star who still does work for Alexander Institute on occassion and ONLY with her husband. There are five scenes of them (workout room, laundry room, and three shower scenes) that get our motors running every time. We would NOT recommend this if you are a porn watching veteran or need plots and great music (if so, you may prefer Island Fever 1 and 2 ). Indeed, we just got a complaint from someone who ordered it vilifying us for putting it into our Top 10 favorites. Obviously, different strokes for different folks - literally. By the way, "New Sex Now" is not one of our favorites, with sub-par sex scenes and a little too much self promotion by its producer and star. That said, there are a few good G-spot tips in there and we could probably send you over our copy of his book for free if you provide an address to us via e-mail.



As to your questions regarding the G-spot, start here and begin your exploration with g-spot specific toys, such as the Worm/Paulchen vibrator from Fun Factory







or the amazing Vibratex Charmer , which gave my wife her first ejaculation orgasm.







Angled glass dildos work very well to provide the necessary stimulation and their unforgiving nature is actually beneficial to providing the necessary pressure needed to get results.







The only sure way to find your g-spot, however, is by exploring. Fingers work just fine in most cases and we're sure your husband won't mind helping you in that department! One thing to avoid, though, is putting pressure on yourself to reach that "promised land." Heed the words of the wise and insightful Penquin and know that not every woman is built the same and not every woman can achieve a g-spot orgasm.



I'm sure others will chime in on this, but this should give you a start.

Welcome Ling! Glad you stumbled upon us. Everything that DPenguin and Freddy have said are all true, but always remember the Golden Rule while on your travels down the yellow brick road, COMMUNICATION with your partner. It took me a long time to really discover myself and how to fulfill my needs. So please learn from our past mistakes, and learn from your peers. I found that I had to learn to masturbate to really find what got me off, so that I could then show Freddy how to maximize our sex life. And the great thing about it is that it is always evolving for the better.

Freddy gave you some insights of the toys that really did it for me. The only one that he didn't mention was the Erosillator.

Regarding the films, there are so many styles of porn out there, that it takes a couple of trys. The one thing that the Alexader Institute Films say compared to the Better Sex line is that it isn't as Clinical. We like the series as a whole, especially the Yoyeur Series. You never thought you liked to watch, but it's a lot of fun. The Island Fever films are pretty much my all time faves. They have great location and they are the beautiful people.

So have fun seaching for the added new toys to your sex life. Keep us appraised on anything you find wonderful. Enjoy!

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Wow, you guys are just so fantastic. Thanks DPenguin, Freddy & Eddy for your input. You know, I had this idea (well, from other sites) that EVERY woman has a G-spot & I was beginning to feel rather frustrated as to why I couldn't find it. Granted I haven't explored myself enough -- what with 2 young kids -- hands are full enough (pun not intended!)!! But you're right, should make the time to learn more abt myself & then see how hubby can pleasure me the way I like to be pleasured. You probably find me stone aged but I've only just become open to him giving me oral sex (I was sooo self conscious of the "scent" below)...

Anyway, we both watched the trailers for Isalnd Fever 2 & that's exactly the sort of thing we like! Just the trailer got us hot & bothered!! Wow, thanks for your recommendations. Thing is, we're not located in the USA. Do you rent outside of the country? We'd like to try titles before buying them, if possible since this sort of scene is new for us too (as opposed to your regular movie).

And, thanks very much for offering your help re the G-spot thinggie. I'm hopeful that very soon I will be able to locate it! Then maybe I'll venture into the toys you so highly recommend!

Ling, personally I have never been able to get to my G myself, I found some very good websites with lots of info and diagrams and sent them to my husband let him self teach with me as the student. Worked great for us, Gave him lots of feedback during the 'lesson' I literally passed out after the first session.
Even after knowing I 'have' it and it works great the only way to find it for me is with his fingers, I have a jelly type g-spot vibe but it just does not do it for me. Guess I need to find a different one to continue my own search.
Keep searching, it is worth the end result.]
Honey

If the end result is better intimacy and communcation with your partner, I wholeheartedly agree. My friend, whom I refered to earlier, has tried everything to get pleasure from g-spot stimulation, but all she gets is a weird feeling in her belly button. If I stick my finger in my bell button, I get a weird feeling in my g-spot area, so I'm entirely inclined to believe her. All this to say enjoy the journey, but don't feel disappointed with yourself if you never get to the destination.



Technically, I'm pretty sure that all women have a g-spot. It's actually a spongy collection of tissue that probably would have been your prostate if you were a man. Whether or not the massaging, rubbing, pressing or beating of this area causes you sexual pleasure is the question at hand. BTW - congrats on making the leap to oral! Everyone comes to new things in their own time, and I doubt there's anyone here who would hold shyness or self-conciousness against you!



Best of luck. I'm liking the thought of a sexy video tonight, though its too flippin' hot here for me to be getting or giving any tonight. A couple of nights ago we tried Cleopatra, which F&E were kind enough to send us. I was pretty sure that Cleopatra and Mark Antony were an item, but MA seems to have been replaced by Ceasar in this version. Oh well. At least the sex was pretty hot.



dp

Hey honeydew, care to post the G-spot websites that you mentioned about? Thanks! Interesting that you didn't locate it yourself. Real cool that your husband did though!

DP, yeah, must not get too carried away that the G-spot discovery thing is the be all & end all of my entire sexual experience. I guess after hearing so much from people abt how awesome it is, I would like to experience it for myself if I ever get there!

Freddy, looking forward to the link!

ling, Hi and welcome aboard.There are many good info sites out there, depends if you are looking for technical/anotomical information or want to read more broadly. I like the link below for a start, it's a list of comments, insights and experiences.

http://www.erotica-readers.com/ERA/ItemFrame.htm

Scroll down the menu on the left hand side until you come to the article on female ejaculation. For some reason the link won't take you there direct! Sorry.

We've added a lot more handplay to our lovemaking in the last couple of years, in some cases making it the whole focus of a session with great results and lots of pleasure all round.

I'll dig through my bookmarks for some more specific material.

ok Ling here is some reading for you-http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70892 This one is several pages about G-spot

http://www.very-koi.net/tutor/female/female.htm this one has gspot and ejaculation info including some pics

http://www.annies-female-ejaculation.com/ this one is peoples stores about female ejaculation

There are some pretty good articles at clitical.com also on these 2 subjects.
I am sure you will probably find more information that you want and get it figured out, enjoy
Honey

And, being the twisted sort of person I am, here's a video of female ejaculation in action. I'm totally apologizing in advance for the fact that this is going to offend quite a few of you :



Click here to view. (you must have Windows Media Player to watch it)

Wow! I have never seen anything like that, nor thought that that is possible... and surely didn't know that there was so much force behind it...

My question: Is any female able to do this?

I second luvr's post!
WOAH!

Yikes! that camera guy better learn to stand back and use the zoom more!
Honey