Celticfrog will understand this I am sure. I am expecting twin girls, actually any time between well now and December, the 9 month due date is Dec 5th but they say twins come early so we are looking at Nov 5th. twins can be quite a lot of work, we want to be sure our relationship does not suffer, course there will be lots of sleep deprevation, dirty diapers, all around lack of interest but we want to stay in turned to our needs our wants and try to keep out desires. Any thoughts or advice?

Well, for one... my sisters were two weeks late... weighing in at 7 lbs EACH. My poor mother.

Ranger and I had some rough times after the Bug was born, but in all reality you've already taken the first step to avoiding real problems.

I'll have more to say on this when I've slept.

~Ang

Congratulations on the double exciting news. Buck and I are expecting our first at the end of April and we are thinking of all of those same things as well...how to keep things going on the right track.

Our best thing we have found so far, thanks to F&E, is to have open communication. If we can share our thoughts and feelings, hopefully in a non-threatening/ combative way, then hopefully the other one can try to understand where the other is coming from and help to come to a compromise.

Hopefully you have some support from friends and family that could help you, especially with 2 on the way, to help you guys have a quiet night on occasion to relax with each other and work on your intimate relationship.

Best of luck and keep up on the communication

You didn't mention if this is your first pregnancy, but Topless is right on - communication means everything in those first few months, especially with the understanding that intimacy WILL be compromised for a while, not to mention that "in the mood" rarely corresponds with schedules and such. Our first was particularly tricky as complications during birth rendered most activities virtually off-limits due to pain. But almost six years later and things are hotter (and more creative) than ever, and F&E.com has been a nice part of that...

This seems like a particularly good support group right here on the F&E forums - many of us have been where you are (well, maybe not with twins, YIKES!)

Congrads!

Demtation & Sarathon (the prickly pair)

I can say that love and patience are definately needed. Sex wasn't even a word in my vocab. for a few months after my kids were born. I got the kids that decided they had to get up every 1 1/2 or 2 hours all night long. I was in constant zombie state. Anyway, my husband was very patient and understanding and it was great that I never had to be pressured into anything or feel like I wasn't giving him enough attention. I'm sure with twins it will be very hard, but communication will definately help. I would say, don't be afraid to leave your children with someone to get a little time together without interruption. Even if it's just to have a cup of coffee together and talk about things (not just about the babies). Good Luck!

According to my parents I only took a week or two before I started sleeping long hours (i.e. 6 hours or more)... they were very happy. I;m crossing my fingers for you.

I was just remembering that after our first son was born I had quite a case of post partum depression. For me this was a big libido killer. I didn't expect it because typically I'm pretty happy and down to earth or whatever, but there I was crying all the time and it made me feel really, really guilty when I probably shouldn't have. Looking back I wish I would have been warned. So if that hits you just try and recognize it for what it is - hormones, your life being completely rearranged, and zero sleep. When we had our second the same feelings washed over me, but it was much easier to cope with just because I knew what was going on so much better. I wonder if this can be even worse with twins? Sorry for the book, but there ya go.

S

Put me down for that one too.

My wife went through PPD pretty bad with our daughter's birth. This was a very long term libido killer.

If your wife has a good support system (i.e. friends, mom, sister, etc.) that can help her recognize it for what it is, you'll be okay. And I didn't include you in the support system only because if she's anything like my wife, she won't listen to you and will only think you are attacking her. They'll take it from another woman though, especially one with experience.

Two children later and our sex life is JUST starting to get back on track, our youngest is 2. Sometimes I'm surprised we had our second child as at that point in time it was VERY infrequent.

My wife had a lot of depression and emotional issue to sort out with both. The second has been easier I'd say, butshe took it hard.

the main goal is to be as supportive as you can and remember that she's not trying to be that way. If you accept her and support her, it will make things go so much easier on the both of you.

On that note, some ladies don't have this issue at all! A friend of mines, wife actually got hornier after they had had their first child. He's happily married.

Either way good, luck and congratulations.

O.

Howdy all, well they were born on Nov 14th, sorry for the long disappearance. but actually i'm waiting for them to wake up so i can feed and change them. I thank Freddy and Eddy for the cock rings, it has kept our sex live, well alive, actually i think we might be habing sex more now than before. We have more quickies, between feeding, changing, etc. the toys add the extra spice we need to keep us horny.

My wife and I have been battleing with PPD that was un-diagnosed and then with the birth of our second daughter 18 mos later it became full blown. We are finaly getting our sex lives back on track and are trying new things. Much thanks to F&E, our miti mite and new rings.

Good luck and please PM me if you want or need to discuss any other issues either as one that is going through it or as an RN.

NN

Congratulations Monkey! Twins always look so sweet from "the outside," but I don't think I'd want to try and keep up with two newborns' sleeping schedules and the like. You're brave. That's also really great that you guys are still making time for lovin'! Keep it up and keep us posted if you like...

S

Congrats on the birth of your babies Hope you are all doing fine

A big double congratulations to you all!

With love and best wishes from G, J and our little angel xxx