Got an issue kinda....Me n cowboy are moving in together in a few months and he has requested that my toys DO NOT move in too! When I asked him what was wrong with my toys he said they were screaming from the closet that he is inadequate. Then he asked couldn't I donate them or something. I don't understand!!!

That's totally an issue. What guy wouldn't want his lady to have a closet full of swxy toys? I think you need to have an open, heart-to-heart chat with the cowboy about the role that your toys play in your life. If he doesn't already understand that they're a natural extension of your sexuality, he needs to start trying. I'd also encourage him to start using the toys with you or watching you use them on yourself. My boy LOVES it when things are getting hot and I reach for a little extra stimulation...

Good luck!

dp

I only usually have the toys out when he's not around and he feels he should be enough but I'm a sex addict and it's better than me running off to find one attached maybe we need a heart to heart on the matter

I've never understood guys who feel like this. Unless you've got a toy with a pull start like in the "Naked Gun", there's nothing to be intimidated about.

I love when my wife brings something to bed...sometimes I grab something for her, too.+ Just another thing to spice things up--like oils, candles, or a stuffed water buffalo. My wife really enjoys many of her toys, and would be hard pressed to get rid of them (I'm more likely to go first!).

I'd think that any guy who hears his lady moan or whimper or scream from a handheld friend would want her to use it as often as possible.

I can see how a guy might take issue with a toy given as a gift by an ex or if maybe you said something like, "this is the PleasureMaster 5000 I used to stick in my boyfriend's ass".

C'mon dude, your wiener's not that small and your lady's glad you share it with her. Now, sit back and enjoy the show. Or better yet, join in!

Mike (should own Duracell stock)

I think this is a communication issue more than anything. There's something inside him screaming that he's inadequate it's not the toys.

For me the toys are just to spice up things. DH and his 'toy' are the main attraction but every now and then I feel like doing something different.

The two of you need to discuss this, specially since you're planning on moving in together. Just try and do it in a positive way and focus on how good things are with him (boost his ego a bit ) and how you only consider the toys a second best.

I wish you all the best.

That goddamn Cowboy; always fuckin' up a good thing!

I say choose the toys.

LOL thanks freddy! I know you're not overly fond of cowboy but I want them both!!!

The toys are moving with me no matter what I just don't understand how to get through to him that it's nothing to do with him. I told him if he didn't satisfy me he wouldn't be here and I wouldn't be moving in.I guess I just overwhelm him too much

Maybe, just a thought, but maybe you and he could get some kind of a toy for him? Then you could introduce it into your love play, and 'show' him that toys can be just a fun addition, instead of a threat.

I don't know. Some guys aren't into that, so I'd definitely talk to him about it first, get his input. Maybe just get on f&e's store, find something you think he'd like, and call him over to see it.

Whatever, it's a thought, right? I can relate to having a man that won't understand, hope this works out well for you, sweetie

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-like oils, candles, or a stuffed water buffalo.

Stuffed Water buffalo Mike??? That's all I can say...
Being a newbie to toys, I can understand the fear. Perhaps if you do talk, educate and perhaps initiate him to them, he may be less fearful.
I got a little vibe in the mail this week with my smart balls, and when the BF tried to surprise me with it*never having used one before...) I nearly jumped out of my skin. It was threatening to me because it was an unknown element. We fear what we do not understand. Help him understand. Good luck!

Youre right, an overdose of porn never kills BUT it makes you tired......................

I'm prety sure he wil not ever ever play with any "guy" toys. I have one that I picked up somewhere along the way but he has said no way to that!
The toys are only there for when he is not around because I can't use them in front of him - just a personal preference - and even when I have treid new things on him he'll say I can't believe you did that ....but it was kinda cool.
I think he's just not used to someone being sooo open about sex .

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I think he's just not used to someone being sooo open about sex .

I can relate with you there! Our poor bewildered men, hahaha.

So you never play with your toys when he's around, but he still feels threatened by them? I assume he doesn't have anything against masturbation in general, right? You could tell him to think of them as very big fingers

Hehe, but seriously, you guys might want to talk some more. Find out why he thinks that way. Is it just the, ah, penetrating one(s) or does he not like any of them? Assuming you have a few different types.

Hope he gives in with grace to the inevitable

If you only use them when he's not around, I don't see why he would see them as meaning he's inadequate? Does he masturbate when you're not around? Does that make you inadequate?

A girlfriend said the same thing to me -ask him if he still masterbates- if he does then there you go!
Last night he mentioned that "no-one can have this high of a libido....but its kinda cool cos none of my buddies are getting any!"
He thinks he is way too small and my toys are so much bigger so somehow I want bigger?? I keep telling him he is just fine that I am satisfied and if I wasn't then he wouldn't be here. It doesn't seem to get through though!

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A girlfriend said the same thing to me -ask him if he still masterbates- if he does then there you go!

Heh, or ask if he watches/enjoys porn. Better yet... watch porn and bring out the toys!

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I keep telling him he is just fine that I am satisfied and if I wasn't then he wouldn't be here.

I have to say that this is not the most cock inspring phrasing I have ever heard. I think it might be better with the words "just fine" replaces with "SO FINE". I think it is a really strange message that the toys can't go, but he could go.

I hope it works out, but I think a TOTALLY different approach to sexuality is hard to over come.