Ok..I am going to make that jump & ask a straight forward question......I have a high sex drive & luv to spend hours in bed making my hubby's dreams,fantasies,etc..cum true..I make sure to kiss, lick etc every part of him...But when it comes time to maybe turn me on as well, I get alittle feely/licky of the breast & bam thats it!! He wonders why I can't cum & I have told him dozen of times, that I need to be stimulated as much as he does.ok, maybe I need it a bit more, but I can't seem to get him to lavous me with as much fondeling as I do him....I would luv it if he would go down below more & am lucky if he does once every 6 months....

So was wondring How I can intice him more to want to give a girl a little licky? I have tried everything, from scents,lace to shaving,etc....I am starting to resent our sex life, cause it seems like he is the only one getting a good & all over fulfillment, well I sit there & get hardly nothing...So am in some pretty desperite need of some advice...We have been together for 10yrs now & have 2 beautiful children & are best of freinds..He knows I am bi-sexual & I have wanted to bring in another female just for my own pleasure latley, more & more...So if anyone can suggest any solutions to my problem, it would be greatly appreciated.....Thank you all & hope you can help a girl out...

Woohoo, a topic near and dear to my heart. I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum from your problem in that I get to eat out a lot less than I'd like.

The main thing I've ever run into a problem with not necessarily with my wife but in general is cleanliness/odor and excessive hair. Neither one has turned me away before, but it definitely cuts down on the pleasure in doing it.

Beyond making sure those two issues are properly addressed I'd suggest seeing if you can make it more fun for him since he seems to lack the desire to do it. Try adding some flavoring like chocolate, caramel, strawberry topping, something he likes and let him lick that off. Something else fun might be if you two are into tying up, once he's tied to the bed sit on his face and take control- that's one thing I really like. Since we're men, it may take a big slap across the head with something along the lines of telling him if you don't get oral pleasure, neither does he, of course that's probably the drastic end of the scale. Something a bit more subtle would be to while going down on him swing yourself around into the 69 position and see if he gets the hint, if not, give him a gentle nudge by pushing against his mouth

Hope this helps. Now if you can tell me how to get past an overly sensitive clit, that would be a great help to me.

Oops, I forgot one of the most important things. If/when he does go down, make sure you're very enthusiastic and also give him some direction if he's not doing the best job. Maybe he just thinks he's not any good at it?

Wow..That was a quicker response then I thought I would get...Thank you Buck....I do make sure she is very clean & smelling very nice & as for shaving, well, he told me he likes it to be "all natural" but I prefer it to be neatly shaven..lol...

I think I will try some flavors to intice him more....He luvs chocolate...

And as to your over sensitive clit, well, I kinda have that same problem with mine.. I tell hubby to be gentle with his tongue & or licking.....Its like this..And don't laugh....Get a cotton candy!! Yes I did say cotton candy...When you lick or suck into your mouth, it doesn't take much for it to melt away at the slightest touch...Well thats exactly what a sensitive clit is like....Very light, featherly touchs...
And boy is your mate lucky, I couldn't even imagine turning down a good licking....lol...I would gladly share or give that up to mine anytime he wanted & as much as he wanted...WOOHOO for her....
Also, thank you for the help & suggestions....I think its time to make a run to the store for some hot fudge without heating it up..

I'll have to try the cotton candy idea next time.

We did find out something interesting this past week with the vanilla scented No. 9 lube that F&E sell in their online store. It has a very light vanilla scent to it and one of our problems was that after I went down, she could smell her own scent on me and wouldn't want to be close. Well, the vanilla scented lube has just enough power to mask her natural scent (not that it needs any masking for me) that she would be close to me after going down. I definitely recommend that lube if you need a good one to use. Also, F&E's store has a mango scented wipe that is very pleasant to use as well for before or after cleanup. If you haven't got time to bathe it works wonders. That reminds me I've got to swing over to the main site and pick some up since we're out!

Also, if you ever get him really into it, I highly recommed a tongue piercing as it's great fun to play with and expand your prowess.

No suggestions yet but let me throw out an off the wall thought.

Is it possible because of your bi-sexuality that your husband somehow feels his oral abilities are either less than your female lovers or that you may be comparing his to theirs and feels threatened?

Good thought Silk, but I have not had another female expereince since my teen yrs. Never when he & I have been together. He has known that I have always wanted to by myself with another woman & with him if he wanted...Which of course he is more then willing to..lol
My experiences with other girls was limited, so have never gotten to enjoy that part of love making with another woman, so I don't think he feels threaten by that...Thank you for the idea though, wish it was that easy....

Buckshot --



As the queen of the sensitive clit (I think I've told you all about my little cycling accident) I have to say that the liberator wedge/ramp have been godsends. That extra bit of angulation makes it easy for the boy to work lower down without bumping against my sensitive bits. Try the palm of one pressed against the pelvic bone to hold the clit steady. 69 with the woman on top is a good one too. Also, if you must lick the clit, lick around the hood trying not to put pressure on the nobble itself. Do these help? I can think up some more if you need 'em.



dp

DP,

We haven't gotten the chance yet to try the liberator out for going down or 69 though it's high on my list of priorities

I'll try the palm of the hand trick as well and remember to lick around rather than on. It's tough not to try a direct assault on the little man in the boat when past partners have overwhelmingly preferred that. Gotta train myself in retrograde I guess.

Oh and still being a newbie I haven't heard about the bike. Do tell, or point to a post for me if you wouldn't mind.

My choice is Moosehead

Being an oral fixated oversexed type, it's been my experience that many people just aren't into the giving end of oral sex. It doesn't matter what you say or what you do, if they aren't into it, end of story.



The question came up on another board around father's day, about whether blowjobs were only on special occaisons. In my case, that pretty much sums it up. I've been with my wife for eighteen years, and usually get her off orally about half the time. She has an aversion to any kind of body fluid (ewwww!) to the point were a bit up precum in her mouth has her gagging and running for the bathroom! Oh, well. At least she does other things to compensate, and directs her oral attention elsewhere.



The point here, and the question: is it a general unwillingness on his part to slow down and be empathetic to your needs, or just a general aversion to oral sex?



One other comment. You think my wife would be interested in my bringing another man into our bed just because I'm bisexual? Yeah, right! (What was I thinking?)

Hmmm good thought RodHammer...I did mention this to hubby & hes says he just doesn't like to give as much as he likes getting..But could be inticed more..So you hit it on the head,sort of speaking...But I told him about some of the ideas & suggestion that have cum up in response to my question & we are having a trim & chocalate party this weekend...hehehe...He says he agrees to me liking it shaved but he wants the control of the design, so hey, what girl would turn that down...After a nice shower, we will set up in the bedroom & I will let him have his way with me down below.. Besides its one way to get him down there..lol..Then I will whip out the chocalate frosting...So thank you all for the help...I sure hope the weekend goes as I hope it does...I'm already so excitted about it mentally..

And to your final comment RodHammer...I feel that if the female is bi & her mate allows her to physical relations with a same sex partner, then why can't she be as open about it for you.....I now I would get a turned on from hubby & 2 guys, as much as I do with myself, hubby & another woman...Not that I have had the chance, maybe someday when the right girl comes along...

Hi sweettart --

I don't know if you used 'chocolate frosting' as a figure of speech, but you may wish to try something with a little less sugar. Those yeast in your vagina will take whatever they can get...

dp

I figured it's a good time to chime in as I wait for the plumber to come and install our new dishwasher. We got a Meile to replace our GE Monogram that took a crapper after only 3 years (right after the fucking warranty expired), but that's another story for another thread.

To put it bluntly - I LOVE to eat Eddy's pussy. LOVE LOVE LOVE it! I can stay down there for hours. The taste, the texture, and yes, the scent - it just drives me wild. One of my favorite things to do is pull out our massage table (if you don't own one - get one!) and give her an all-over, deep tissue rubdown, so that she's relaxed to the point of almost falling asleep. Then, I'll work my way over her body with soft breaths, exhaling warmly into the "area" and teasing it with my hair and tongue lightly touching around the area (but not the clit or lips). At this point, she usually begins arching her hips toward my mouth, wanting more, so I oblige, always TAKING MY TIME. Fellas, heed the advice of our lovely ladies - go slow and go light. She'll let you know when she wants more pressure, whether it's by pressing into your tongue or simply telling you. I'm almost of the opinion that penetration should be the dessert, with foreplay as the appetizer, and cunnilingus being the main course.

As for her pleasuring me, it has taken years for her to develop her skills, but I'd now put her up against any porn star and dare them to do better. In the beginning of our relationship, she ran quickly to the sink at the slightest taste of my fluids and rarely gave me head. However, as we continued to deepen our feelings over time, she slowly began to venture down more often, watched the oral scenes in porn movies more intently, and (my favorite part) practiced more and more often. Eddy has become so amazing, in fact, that she can actually get me off again after we've had sex.

Oh Eddy, you are one lucky girl! If you added A Night with Freddy to the online store and used that second paragraph as the item description, I bet you'd make a killing

Katie