hi!- I was reading your responses to some people regarding sex and orgasms... and your situation sounds like mine.
I was with a boyfriend for 9 years and I never had the big o... at all. It drove him crazy, and I even got tested at a sex specialist to make sure everything was working down there...which it was...
I am able to achieve orgasm by myself... only with a vibrator and I have to be reading some erotica or watching porn. I need some type of visual to get me there.
I have since broken up with the b/f for almost a year and since then I have been with 2 people. After round 2, they both have said... you gotta tell me what gets you off. I completely enjoy sex even though I cannot reach what they are looking for.
So , my question to you... how do you let guys know that it is normal for you. My guy friends always say you cannot tell the guy becuase it just causes problems!
Also- are you able to have an orgasm with your partner - in any way? Since I can only do this by myself, I would love to be able to do this with a partner but I cannot seem to get the visuals in my head that I need with someone else in the room!
Luvmuscles is this really is just a question for Rena then I suggest you send her a PM and we delete this thread. If, however, you actually want other folk to join in I suggest you open the topic up. GG
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Posts: 1904 | Location: Scotland | Registered: 22 November 2005
This is so easy - just bring the vibrator and porn in WITH your partner and SHOW him how you get off. He'll love the show (what boyfriend wouldn't?) and he'll learn some valuable lessons. Let him use the vibe on you and have him simulate the speed and thrusting rate himself. Then, if clitoral stimulation is key, get a small vibe and use it on yourself while he makes love to you. So many possibilities.
Freddy, I think that using a vibrator in front of a bf could piss some of them off. They could be offended that this chick prefered doing it with a mechanical toy rather than anything they were capable of providing.
Posts: 112 | Location: Scotland | Registered: 13 December 2005
Freddy, I think that using a vibrator in front of a bf could piss some of them off. They could be offended that this chick prefered doing it with a mechanical toy rather than anything they were capable of providing.
Uh, I didn't mean SURPRISE him. Obviously, it should be discussed before it's done.
I agree with freddy. And with snowshoe. Do you think you would enjoy a mirror? Try out a question like... "I was thinking about watching myself give you a blowjob in a mirror while I masturbate with a vibrator. Can you come over?" It would certainly make a good email.
