Hey ya'll Im just getting back from Iraq and no sex for 15 months other than mid tour which was about 10 months ago. I am noticing that I am haveing a staminia issue which is something I have never really had an issue with. My wife left me while I was deployed for another man and my divorce is still pending. I am wondering if maybe the stress and such of my divorce and my reajustment could be the cause of my short staminia. My new girlfriend is nice a sweet about it but i know in time it is going to not be what she is wanting. before my deployment I had no real issues. During mid tour which was 6 months with out sex the first couple of times where short and to the point but after that it was back to normal. Just wondering if anyone may have an idea why I now am having this issue?

stress, trust issues, readjustment, money (now that you are back and possibly paying the legal bills). all of this could be a problem. it sounds actually like a huge load on your shoulders

be happy you are home and in one piece.
and welcome home by the way. you def. earned it.

cheers and best of luck
Nigel.

i went through the same things years ago with wife #1.

it will get better as things work themselves out. don't add to the problem by worrying about it.

enjoy life and be glad you're home safe and sound. enjoy the little things and the big things take care of themselves.

welcome back.

Hi GI and welcome to the boards, hope you have lots of fun here. Personally I would have been more surprised if you were not having stamina issues right now - both Ajay and Nigel make valid points and, given you have only had your right hand for company for months I suggest you just unwind and let things calm down for a while

GI,

It takes time to unwind after a tour. I was in Afg in 06 and had the same type of marital issues when I returned. Let me say that things have returned to normal if not better for me now. Yes, the lawer bills are a bitch but I am now at the point of paying them down and not building them up...it feels good.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel! Don't rush things, they will improve.

If you want to pm me on this feel free

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Originally posted by Nigel:
stress, trust issues, readjustment, money (now that you are back and possibly paying the legal bills). all of this could be a problem. it sounds actually like a huge load on your shoulders

That's probably it. Any amount of anxiety can be hell on one's sex life in any number of ways. Plus, the fact that your relationship is pretty new, so there may be some preformance anxiety too. I agree with ajay, don't worry about it too much, especially if your girlfriend is understanding

Glad to have you home safe and sound!

Welcome Home and welcome to the boards. I know the feeling, been there done that. Combat zones have a tendancy to do that to guys. No worries though, it does get better. If you ever wanna chat or vent.. I'm here. Tours in Bosnia and Kosovo, so I'm trackin' what you're feeling bro.

~Ranger (Resident Crazy-Vet)

Welcome GI!
I think you hit the right boards regarding your query. You will realize in time that the friends here at F&E have no agenda. What we do have in common is that sex is good, and that communication will get you through most hardships. So relax, enjoy getting to know your new gal and go with the flow. Welcome home!