I have been trying to find my wife's g-spot for a while now. I read an article the other day about how the g-spot is in between the bumpy tissue at the front of the vaginia and the uterus, which is pretty much all of it. The article said once you find it, it will feel like touching the end of your nose.

I found this spot last night, but it was deep inside of her. It was at the very end of my index finger which is probably 3 inches. I am not sure if I found her g-spot or her uterus. She said it fell good when I applied pressure to the spot.

Any body have any advice on whether this might have been it? Of course she does not know what it feels like, because it is new to her too. It is fun to explore though, whether we find it or not.

the best thing i can think of, is to call f&e and order a copy of deborah sundahl's book. Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. it will educate you both, and smarter more sophisticated lovers you shall become.

open your mind and the body follows.

cheers
Nigel.

Welcome Womenarelovely!
Why yes! Women are lovely! Regarding your wife and you both trying to find her G-spot area, take Nigel's advice. Deborah Sundahl's book is pretty popular, and she also was the host on a Loving Sex (educational) DVD called Female G-Spot and Female Ejaculation. Of course I haven't had a chance to put it up in our online store!

But your wife needs to find it first on her own. Otherwise it becomes a "pony trick" where it becomes a highly pressure scene, even though we try to play it off that it's not. Let your wife have some alone time where she can search for the G-spot area on her own, while taking the time to pleasure herself. She can't show you until she can actually feel it herself. Now there is the misconception that the G-spot is 1 and 1/2 inches up from the opening of the vagina behind the front pubic bone. Well, we are all built different, so there is always the possibility that it might not be at that exact spot.
TO BE CONTINUED....

ok, personally, i'm on my own on this one. read a lot of the postings about the g-spot, and the female ejaculation (which i HAVE to experience).

so, again, i'm on my own on this one. i think i came across it last week. i had two fingers inside. and i had them curled gently to the front (based on the pic of the g-spot vibrator). again, i THINK i came across it, not sure. i was feeling around, a couple of inches in.....on the frontal part......and it did appear to feel pretty good to her (yeah, should have communicated better). anyway, i kept moving my finger(s) around the same spot. and as she moved around, a couple of times....i thought i felt something poke back out at my finger. by some of the accounts that i've read (mostly here)....i think that is it. somewhere, someone says, it's almost like a little nose poking out in there. i'm pretty sure that's what it was.....and i am going back for another try. i'll make sure to communicate with her a little more next time. to eddy's point of getting her to find it......sorry, that's not happening. she is a little shy - even with herself.....so, i'm on a solo mission for that one. let y'all know when i have some news. if i could get her to ejaculate for me.....that would be THE BOMB!!! keep ya's posted.........

My middle finger is just the right length for my wife. I just stick it in and curl it untill I feel a bump then rub and she moans quite loud. Just a jentle rubbing with a tiny bit of pressure and she really enjoys it. I'm sure some people's results may vary.

My wife is too shy to masturbate, so no luck on her finding it herself. Trust me, I have tried to convince her to play with herself, because it will only benefit her and our sex life. So I will soldier on and help her find it...

When my husband sits on his knees and I am laying on my back with my legs resting in his arms he can gently thrust or pull me in touching my g-spot.

My wife & I have been married for almost 18 years now. Until recently when we started exploring our sexuallity more, she took a long time to climax. When I stuck two of my fingers inside her and found her g-spot, it all changed. I feel around and watch for her reaction. When she squirms around and moans I know I'm in the right place. When this happened I've been able to give her multiple orgasms. Just last night I combined fingering her g-spot and using the Hitachi Magic Wand and holy crap. The first orgasm hit in about 30 seconds. Within 15 minutes she had 4 more. Don't give up, it's well worth it to find it.
I think it works better if you lube your fingers a little bit also.

It really makes me sad that so many women are afraid to explore themselves. I used to be this way.
And my sex life was.... well, it was okay.
But since I have shaken my inhibitions, my subliminal thoughs of "That's dirty" or "only sluts do that" my sexuality and my libido have climbed to heights I never knew existed. I hardly ever had an orgasm before - but now, since I know what it takes to get there, I can and most always climax at least 3 or 4 times per love making session. And it's not because I do it myself - though I admit, I do it myself quite a lot.

It's because I know what to tell him to do, how to guide him. I know what to think of when I am not so in the mood but want to be. I know what I look like. I know what I feel like. I know what feels good to me. I know what puts me off. I know. And because I know - he knows. And he knows it but good.

I know I got off topic, but damn it ladies! It is your body! Take control of it. How are you ever going to experience without being experienced? How is he going to know what to do to please you if you have no idea what would do the trick.

I'm frustrated.

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Originally posted by nonnahse:
It really makes me sad that so many women are afraid to explore themselves. I used to be this way.
And my sex life was.... well, it was okay.
But since I have shaken my inhibitions, my subliminal thoughs of "That's dirty" or "only sluts do that" my sexuality and my libido have climbed to heights I never knew existed. I hardly ever had an orgasm before - but now, since I know what it takes to get there, I can and most always climax at least 3 or 4 times per love making session. And it's not because I do it myself - though I admit, I do it myself quite a lot.

It's because I know what to tell him to do, how to guide him. I know what to think of when I am not so in the mood but want to be. I know what I look like. I know what I feel like. I know what feels good to me. I know what puts me off. I know. And because I know - he knows. And he knows it but good.

I know I got off topic, but damn it ladies! It is your body! Take control of it. How are you ever going to experience without being experienced? How is he going to know what to do to please you if you have no idea what would do the trick.

I'm frustrated.

this topic has come up with my wife and i. i ask her to masterbate or rub herself when we are having sex, but she says she isnt into that and she asked me if i ever masterbate. well i guess i dont either. and i guess i would feel a little odd doing it in front of her(i dont even do i alone) so i can see whats she means too. i would love to experiment a little. this may sound dumb, but how do you start? if we could get things going i would love to pleasure her g spot.

It doesn't sound dumb, sometimes it's hard to figure out where to start.

My advice
First off - you guys really should start masturbating on your own before you're really ready to do it in front of each other. That is, if she is inclined to try. She may not be, and that's pretty normal too. But of course, it isnt fair to ask her to do something you wouldn't try yourself. So try it sometimes when you are alone. And then tell her about it. Or hint at it if you are afraid it will adversely affect her. Like "Today, while you were out getting your hair done I got so excited thinking about you and your beautiful body that I could hardly stand it." When she says something like "really?" then you can say that sometimes you just can't help yourself. You are so in love with her, and can't believe you have such a gorgeous woman as your wife. You need not go any further, unless you think she may want to hear more. And when you do it, always tell her that you couldn't get her out of your mind. Yes, we love all that romance stuff - and all that sexy stuff too.


During foreplay - not during intercourse, while you are either performing oral on her or using your fingers to pleasure her, put her hands there. Don't just tell her to do it, do it with her. Silly as it sounds, a lot of women have no idea how to pleasure themselves. Sometimes we are scared of "down there". Help her out, tell her how sexy she looks and how excited it gets you to see her touch herself. If she likes dirty talk, make it graphic. If you're not sure or she prefers R rated instead of X then adjust it.
"I want to fuck the life out of you" can easily be turned to "I want to make love to you forever".
"You look so damn hot, I feel like my balls are going to explode" can be effectively said with "You are so beautiful, I can hardly contain myself".

Do you use toys? A small vibrator can help get things going. If she is unsure tell her that you would like to use it on her and you will stop if she doesn't like it. Don't forget to say something to the effect of "It would turn me on so much if we used this when we next make love." (this can translate to "I'm gonna make you cum so hard you're going to think you've crossed over to another dimension. Your pussy IS the center of the universe, and your clit a goddess")

Read sexy books together. There are many that have some masturbation scenes in them.
If porn isn't in the negotiations, then try some steamy movie, or some soft porn. Though I am not all that familiar with the titles - other members here would be able to point you in the right direction.

I hope I have helped a least a little. If there was anything more specific you would like to know or hear an opinion on please don't hesitate.

BTW, I love to see my husband masturbate. But this is not for everyone. But I believe that women like to know that we turn on men so much that they have to violate themselves when we are apart.