I have a friend, who, well, let's not go into all the gory details. Let's just say he's having erectile issues. What are the best positions for a woman to still enjoy intercourse?

Ride 'em cowgirl?

i might be wrong, but as a guy, it doesnt really seem possible

Well you can't do the 'in and out' thing very well, but 'bump and grind' is doable. Yes, cowgirl style, and just rocking on top can work. It stimulates the clit, and you have that feeling of fullness inside, without so much of a chance of it slipping out.

But has your friend considered a cock ring? Apparently they work fairly well (waiting for all the guys to chime in now...)

If they are real problems the guy should not feel bad about pharmacutical solutions and/or a cock ring.

I do not believe it is possible for a man to finish w/o an erection.

I can't have intercourse with a semi-erect penis. I either have to be erect or not have sex. If I'm not fully erect, it doesn't feel right.

There could be a number of things causing it. Why limit sex because of it.

I'd like to resurrect this old discussion.

Pumps, pills and such seem to only go so far for some men. Still, intercourse and ejaculation is possible with a male member at half mast, but I find that it can be frustrating at times. Any suggestions?

Well, yeah... but it's like Play-Doh... you know... when you roll out a ball of play-doh.. it gets all floppy and ends up shooting small chunks everywhere. Good lord... did I just relate a play-doh snake to a semi-stiffy? Yeah I blame the cold meds.

~Ranger

Still, intercourse and ejaculation is possible with a male member at half mast.[/QUOTE]

Uh... no it's not. Unless crushed penis is a turn on for you.

Bardish- I tend to disagree with you considering insertion can actually be achieved with a fully flacid penis. It just takes a lot of time, effort, and gentle movements. It's actually part of a tantra technique we learned called soft penetration.

I agree that the typical thrusting, grunting, panting, sweaty sex that most people associate with the actual act isn't possible, but it is still possible to have intercourse (just in a gentler fashion)

I've found that if you can get in soft, and get hard they go nuts.

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Uh... no it's not. Unless crushed penis is a turn on for you.

Uh...well, no, it's not, as you so delicately suggest.

As others here have confirmed, it is possible to have intercourse with a semi-erection, and not an evil doing by a malicious woman hell-bent on snapping her man's bone, as you semi-imply.

I'm just wondering if people have suggestions on how best to gain pleasure through this sort of gentler intercourse, which is the only type possible with my husband at this time due to health problems.

I miss the feeling of being filled up by a stiff member, plus my man feels some embarrassment over it. Perhaps, these thoughts must be suspended before we can relax and enjoy intimate time together as a couple.

it would seem to me, that there would be many ways to pleasure your partner aside from insertion. but the matter of one partner having difficulty over their inability due to health or injury has to be overcome first.

the truth of sex is, the best part of sex or physical intimacy is just being there for and with their chosen partner.

a huge part of physical intimacy and satisfaction is in the minds eye of the participants. come to peace with the expectations. and enjoy the closeness.

fulfillment has many faces.

good luck.
Nigel

Wise observations, Nigel.

Yes, I agree that just being together can be erotic and pleasurable. I'm trying to reassure my husband of that, but he clings to an old self-image when his samurai snapped into action with slight provocation, if you get my drift.

To him, my saying "It's okay. It doesn't matter. Let's do <fill in the blank> instead" is the ultimate confirmation he has been defeated as a man.

It leaves me with very little to say to make the situation better.

i understand. and it is so hard for men to deal with what we percieve as the slightest sexual dysfunction on our parts.

it really takes an in depth self examination of how a man feels about himself. and how he views his own worth. and sadly even the toughest man, when faced with this sort of obstacle, will suffer some self image damage.

some of that. can run very deeply and be very painful to face up to. enough to you can stop hearing what goes on in the hearts of those who surround you.

i hope you can guide your partner to a secure place. its hard to lead someone out of the darkness like that. best case is he becomes affirmed enough that maybe he will understand that a difficulty is not the end.

best of luck
Nigel.

Thank you for your words of encouragement, Nigel. I truly think that situations like this bring you closer together or drive you apart--a 'growth opportunity (no pun intended).


Anouk