Hello everyone we need advice. Why is it so hard to find a single bi-lady? We dont know if we are ready to go to a couple, we have had a few threesomes and would prefer to stick with that but our lady friend moved away.How do you get past the idea of having a foursome? Thanks for any advice.

Hello, and welcome. No advice from me on the foursome, except to talk, talk, and talk some more about it to set ground rules and make sure EVERYONE is comfortable.

First, welcome to the community!

Unfortunately, it is hard to find a good counterpart to share your life with no matter what their sexual preference. It takes honesty, patience, communication, and a lot of luck.

This really isn't the advice you might want to hear, but my suggestion would be to stop looking. I met my wife that way. Enjoy yourselves as a couple and remember what you both have that is special (confidence is a huge attraction). If you live your normal lives the way that you want to, then you will likely run into someone that enjoys those same things. Then if a person does come along and wants to share in your joy then you will be ready to share.

Thanks everyone, we have been together for 18 years and yes we still do enjoy ourselves. Just hard sometimes to keep the spark and passion alive. I think the biggest hangup is with meand that is being nude in a room with another man. It's not the nudity rather than the fear of being out performed..lol. We have had another woman several times but she moved away from us and it is very hard to find another playmate.

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It's not the nudity rather than the fear of being out performed..lol.

Not to mention the possibility of "crossing swords"