My husband loves to experiment and try new things and i never shot them down. When he asked to have anal I was a little nervous put Im glad I tried it as I really enjoy it. This has been a few years since then. So I have recently brought up me using a strap on. He not saying no he says he not ready. If anyone has any tips on how to make him relax. Maybe if I show him ive looked into this and presented him with like a beginners strap on, the best position for him. Does anyone have any tips that might be helpful.
You might want to try some thing a bit easier like anal beads with him, that seems to me to be going in the right direction, if he likes it he may want more.
Posts: 951 | Location: Ohio | Registered: 04 March 2006
start with your fingers, or beads. I don't think strapping one on, to someone who is unsure, would be the best way to go. Next time you're giving him head, move your fingers down there and play a little bit. Don't try to insert anythign without lube, but you can tease a bit and see his reaction and he might go for something more.
Take it slow and try not to pressure him into it. By taking baby steps you can see what he is willing to do and what he is not. It is possible that he would view this as a homosexual act. Once again don't shoot for the moon right away. Like most of the other sugestions try using a finger just rubbing the outside and gauge a reaction. If there is no complaints gently insert a finger and so on. But please for his sake make sure its well lubricated.
There's a part of me that thinks it's only fair. If you work her into the mood for anal, you have to at least CONSIDER experiencing it yourself. You can't very well tell her, "It's ok, it won't hurt, gay guys do it all the time," to get her to cross the line, and then say you're afraid to do it yourself.
I'm thinking of the Bob Schimmel line, "So she says to me," "You like anal, you think it's easy? I'll show you easy!" and grabs the dildo and starts working me with it, I say, "Honey, TAKE IT OUT OF THE BOX FIRST!"
"I asked my girlfriend if she had ever had sex with a woman before. She said no. I said you should try it, it's fun. So she did...........now she's gone." -Steven Wright
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maybe if you if you get some dvds of women using a strap on a male will also help. it's funny my girlfriend was the one uncomfortable using a "strap on" on me. now she likes doing to me, and has bought all kinds of anal toys for us to play with.
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if you got any problems with using one on him, you can use my behind lol. Like others said first get pictures or videos of women using them. Thats how i got into it. Now the problem is findin women to do so .
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Originally posted by SHOCKER3030: maybe if you if you get some dvds of women using a strap on a male will also help. it's funny my girlfriend was the one uncomfortable using a "strap on" on me. now she likes doing to me, and has bought all kinds of anal toys for us to play with.
Damn. That's quite a girlfriend. lol.
Could you pick up some lube on the way home from work? Thanks.
I'm wanting to experiment with this as well, but as for the porn aspect it turns me off because a lot of the time the woman is insulting and degrading the man, which I'm not into (I know some guys are and that's fine, just not my thing. Keep this in mind cause you might turn him off even more if you're not careful.
