Ladies, I would love your advice about this? How would your respond?

Several years ago, I refused a sexual encounter with one of the hottest women I had ever met because it was just too wild for me (I'm pretty conservative!), yet now it's become my biggest fantasy!

The bad part is that I'm too embarassed to bring it up when I date someone, so I'd like to ask you ladies how you would respond if a boyfriend wanted to do this?

Let me start from the beginning. I met a really attractive woman, struck up a conversation and then asked her out. We went out a few times, and then one night we met for drinks and dinner. After dinner, we went back into the lounge for another drink, settled into a booth that was somewhat secluded and things started to get romantic. We kissed and touched. Sshe was so sexy and enticing. After a few more drinks, she said that she had a fantasy that she wanted to fulfill. We had not had sex yet, but I was so turned on, I was ready for anything (or so I thought)! I asked what the fantasy was?

She said that she wanted me to jack off all over her tits and then lick up and eat my cum.

I said what?
She said...that it would really, really turn her on to see a man jack off and eat his own cum!
I said: No way!

She said: Well, I understand...I just like to be in control...Sorry...and then she left.

We never dated again, but as time went by, I started to fantasize about her. In my fantasies, she got me to jack off on her tits and lick it up. After I masturbated to this fantasy awhile, it progressed to fantasies about her going down on me and then kissing me with her mouth full of cum...and eventually to fucking and her immediately sitting on my face ordering me to eat her out while the sweet cum dripped down into my mouth.

This has become my usual fantasy, but I'm just not sure what a woman would think if we were intimate and I asked her for this? Would she think this was totally weird - like I did at first? I'm not dating anyone now, but I would like to know if most women would be accepting of this or not?
Ladies? Any thoughts about this or advice?

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the sweet cum dripped down into my mouth

Cum is salty, warning! DId you taste it? If not, do it, it wd be a disgrace to get a girl to play this out and after the first lick say "Uh... perhaps not!" lol.

I would not find it weird, no more than many other things, and I think I wd be very interested and curious, but I wd advice not to throw anything like that to any woman on your first intimate encounter. Take some time to know her and see where she is located on the vanilla-scale

Welcome to the boards!

I agree with Snow-

First knowing that you can handle the situation fully before asking to do so would be key. Even representing the woman with a pillow or similar object to get the feel for the situation would be wise.

Secondly, knowing how far the woman would go sexually is important. Waiting until you know this information helps you because it shows you care and do not wish to pressure her where she's not comfortable.. and it helps keep the girl in the relationship.

Good luck man and keep us posted! Also- welcome to the forum.

~Kathy~

You know, as I was reading this I was feeling for the woman that has asked dan d to do this. I thought, how great it is that she was so confident to ask such a thing. How much we have evolved as women to be so communicative sexual beings - in control of our desires and needs. And how embarassed she must've felt when dan d turned her down. And of course he would turn her down. It is quite a stunning request for the beginning of a relationship. But maybe she got the vibe from him that it was acceptable. In any case, I started thinking about if it had been a man that made such a request - and I remembered a creep I went out with just 1 time.

We went to dinner, had a nice time (and yeah, it was a blind date). We went back to my place - not for that, I had a roommate who was having a small party. He had a car accident some months before, hurt his back and was on pain medication. But tonight he didn't take it or bring it with him because he wouldn't be able to drive back. But his back was bothering him and he asked if he could lay down somewhere for a few minutes. Of course, you can lay in my bed (how naive I see that I was...tsk tsk). So we go to my room and one thing lead to another and we were making out, blah blah. But figured we better cool things down - I just didn't want it to progress to that. So he said fine....... but he suggested that he jerk off in a towel while I kissed his neck and watched....



I couldn't believe he would ask such a thing. Now, if we had been together for some time - it wouldn't have been such an outrageous request. But I had just met this guy!

So I guess my point is that when a man does it he is a creep, but when a woman does it she is "Sexually Confident"? It doesn't make any sense to me. But that was my first reaction. It's like a different spin on the whole "she sleeps around, she's a slut - he sleeps around, he's a playa" double standard.

I'm not sayin' its right. I'm just saying it occurred to me that if she asked him - does that make her a creep? It should, but it doesn't, at least not in my eyes. A little forward, not something I would ever do.

But then again in a perfect porn world, she would ask if he would jerk off on her tits and then lick the cum off and he wouldn't say yeah, but "Hell Yeah!"

Anyway, I've totally gone off what you have asked.
But hopefully you are not intending on asking someone who you had only been out with a few times, or had none or little intimate encounters with. A relationship based on trust and openess yields the best sex! Guaranteed!

There is something that my husband does occasionally and it is that he goes down on me after he has already cum in/on me. It is the most incredible feeling. Not just sensations, but emotional - that he loves/wants me so much that he would want to taste our juices flowing together. Jeez, I really wish he would do that again soon!
So if you are wondering if it is a normal type of fantasy for a woman to have. Well, yes. We are just as adventurous in our fantasies as you guys. There are no rules.

If it puzzled you as to why you were shocked by the request and then it became your best spank bank material. Its pretty simple, you probably never heard of it, or thought of it. Shocking at first, but then you were intrigued - then it turned you on. Now you want to experience it. It happens all the time. I thought splurging (this had become my favorite word to describe female ejaculation, thanks Nigel - I think it was you who came up with it) was some kinda trick when I first heard about it. Then I thought it was kinda gross. Then I was intrigued.... now I wanna do it.

It comes down to this, if my husband asked me to do this particular deed I'd say "Lemme get the camera." but if a guy I had just met/started dating asked this I would be so outta there. Good luck. Sorry for writing so much, I hope it helps.

Oh, and not all cum is salty. But it does have a distinct taste. Defintely try it before hand ( before hand)

Thanks for the input. I've taken your advice and tried several times to taste my cum (by myself). The problem that I seem to have now is that most of the time, as soon as I cum, I lose the excitement and no longer want to eat it.

It's funny that as I'm masturbating, I want the cum in my mouth so bad I'd do anything to have a mouthfull of my cum. Then, as soon as I cum, I lose the desire to eat it instantly. I did lick up some of it a few nights ago and it was fine. I thought I would be ok with it from then on, but the next night, I just couldn't make myself eat it. I guess I just have to wait to find a really seductive woman that likes to be in control! Maybe she can tie me up and make me do it?

In the meantime, I'll keep trying. Maybe I just need to get it in my mouth before I think about it?

I have no problem with your fantasy. Frankly I wouldn't stress over it, or even see the need to discuss it with a partner before hand. Like nonnahse, it is something that occurs with my husband and I. A couple of weeks ago he took me from behind. It was nice but that is not a way that will normally result in my climax. After he finished he finished me off with his mouth. No big deal. Just make it a normal part of a lovemaking session.

For starters, I'm 53 years old, white, conservative, heterosexual, married for over 23 years and monagamous. I've been married once. My 52 year old wife has been previously married and divorced.

This is a rather delicate subject for us guys who pride ourselves with being sexually unhibited.

I have spoken with other guys about sexual matters, but when it comes to oral sex after engaging in unprotected sexual intercourse, it's amazing how quickly reticence enters the conversation.

The idea of having a man having any oral contact with anything penis-related, especially swallowing semen is something that is associated with homosexuals. Most of us consider any homosexual activity to be repugnant.

I love engaging in oral sex. I love going down on a woman. When a long session (10 to 45 minutes) of cunnilingus progresses into the 69 position, that is great! It's the sexual icing on the cake!

I must, however, admit that I won't engage in cunnilingus after intercourse, unless I was wearing a condom, or pulled out before climaxing.

If I decided to overcome this manly hurdle, the smell of the combined body fluids, specifically the mixture of semen and vaginal fluids, would put me off. (Ever wonder why scented douches are popular?)

I admit that this subject should be addressed more often.

hi everyone. my $.02. Get into the subject slowly. don't spring that on a new relationship. It also depends how kinky your new partner is. sometimes relationship start like volcanos and sometimes they start like a match. wait for the relationship to really heat up. do one of her fantasies first.

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Originally posted by P.J.:
Most of us consider any homosexual activity to be repugnant.
If I decided to overcome this manly hurdle, the smell of the combined body fluids, specifically the mixture of semen and vaginal fluids, would put me off. (Ever wonder why scented douches are popular?)

I admit that this subject should be addressed more often.

Excuse me do you mean that YOU find any homosexual activity repugnant? Who is this 'most of us' you are referring to? Whilst I am not gay - at least I don't think I am I have no problem with two men or two women enjoying sex together.

So the smell of your and your partner's sexual fluids is off putting to you? Perhaps you need to change your diet! Oh and I NEVER EVER use any sort of a douche least of all a scented one - that is one definite way to irritate the vagina.

I personally suggest you read the threads on these boards a little more carefully before making any more comments. You can then make a reasoned decision as to whether this is the place for you. If it isn't fine but don't go judging other folks just 'cause you don't like something.

GG

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Excuse me do you mean that YOU find any homosexual activity repugnant? Who is this 'most of us' you are referring to? Whilst I am not gay - at least I don't think I am I have no problem with two men or two women enjoying sex together.

Look out P.J. You have PO'd Granny. While her point is well taken, I don't sense malice in your response. In fact, I would guess that our host, Freddy would tend to agree with your premise.

I do think, many men, are homophobic to the extreme. I don't think pleasing your woman orally after intercourse, should bring comparisons to sucking another dick. Your goal should be her ultimate pleasure, not your fragile ego.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I have found it to be true that diet affects the taste of cum (and pineapple juice helps a lot!) although, i still can't get myself to taste it very often. Like i said before, I think the fantasy is more about the seductive (yet dominant and enticing woman), than it is about tasting my cum. Looking forward to meeting that dominant, seductive woman! Too bad the one that started this long ago lived so far away!

I have to say that before my current relationship the thought was repugnant. Now, however, I have no hesitation on going down on her after I have ejaculated inside her. I love the reaction I get by using my mouth on her after I have been in her. I love it, she loves it....what more do ya want.

Don't judge before you try.

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Originally posted by Glamourous Granny:
Excuse me do you mean that YOU find any homosexual activity repugnant? Who is this 'most of us' you are referring to? Whilst I am not gay - at least I don't think I am I have no problem with two men or two women enjoying sex together.

I think he means that most men find the thought of engaging in homosexual acts repugnant. And, to that extent, I can somewhat agree with him; I'm all for homosexual relationships, have no issues with Gay rights, and have never been offended by anything that could be related to homosexuals as a people, but I personally find the idea of being involved in man-to-man hotness to be unappealing, even to the point of being repulsed by it. Its cool if others wish to get into it, but I'm not interested in personally partaking.

I think that is what he means- And if he doesn't, well, he IS admittedly conservative, and sometimes conservatives know not what they speak.

Oh, and BTW: I do see the hypocrisy of severely disliking the idea of being involved in a man-on-man sexual activity, whilst at the same time desiring being a part of a threesome with two girls, which itself is technically a homosexual act.

Good one Kathy and Jay. "know not what they speak"? You assigned someone else's comments to me while you get insulting. Wrong and insulting are a nice combination.

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Oh, and BTW: I do see the hypocrisy of severely disliking the idea of being involved in a man-on-man sexual activity, whilst at the same time desiring being a part of a threesome with two girls, which itself is technically a homosexual act.

reminds me of the time i mentioned a threesome to my wife....she smiled and said "i always wanted to do it with two guys".....not quite what i had in mind.