Hello everyone. I thought I would just introduce myself and I hope I can contribute to the discussions here. I'm Drew, 37 yr old male from the East Coast. Frankly, I have an insatiable sexual appetite. While I'm married and have a very active and otherwise healthy sex life, my wife is very vanilla. We have sex quite often but if I ever even suggested we, say, invite someone else into the bedroom, I think she would have a stroke! So, I tend to read a lot of erotic lit, watch a lot of porn, and keep myself 'entertained' with my fantasies remaining, well... fantasies, and to myself.

So, that's a little about me and if you want to know more, please ask!

Hi ALongDay and welcome... perhaps you could try slowly, very slowly introducing some of your ideas to your wife. Personally I would never consider a 3rd party in mine and G's relationship.

Question are these fantasies of yours something you actually want to make real or jerk off material for your mind?

Unless and until your broach the subject with your wife you will never know what she would say.

ALD -- I have to agree with GG. Go very slow. My wife was "Vanilla" when we were first married. But over the years our sex-life grew and blossomed. Start with talking her about what she would like. You know she may surprise you.

MJ

As the "less vanilla" part of the couple, my advice would be baby steps. Talk about it with her, make some suggestions. I usually make suggestions either while we're in the heat of the moment or afterward we we're both very relaxed. I have to say, you may not ever get your threesome fantasy. That's a pretty huge step, especially I think for most women.
My two cents.

Well, I've got to say that I love my relationship. And I'm ok with it remaining Vanilla. Like I said, we have A LOT of sex, so I should be a happy guy! I've come to terms that my fantasies will remain 'jerk-off' fantasies. And I'm ok with that.

I'm not one to cheat. I've got it too good to be that stupid. But maybe some day, somewhere somehow I'll live out some of my fantasies. And if I don't, at least I know they'll have given me a lot of JO material! :O)

Speaking of which... I could probably use a 'stress-release' now...

So, there's my intro. Looking forward to some fun/interesting/informative chat!

I have a couple of questions:

• how long have you been married?
  
• How long was your courtship?
  
• Would you define "Vanilla" in more detail?