My hubby has been asking for anal sex for as long as I can remember, he does a little finger action during oral and inter, which I will admit I do like, and I'm curious about either beads or a plug, but I'm not sure I'm ready to try anal intercourse. Would his heart get broken if we tried either of those toys and I decided that I didn't like anal or that I didn't want to try anal? What have been your experiences toying with anal?

If he's so keen for your tail, you should do him in the ass first. The best way to learn to fuck someone in the ass to get fucked in your own ass first.

Hi Mrs. VDK,
Your question of "would you break his heart?" regarding Anal sex is quite naive. First and foremost is how YOU feel about anal sex being done on you. You said you didn't think you are ready for it, so the answer would be NO! Playing anal really works on your communication and trust. So far you enjoy the pleasure you feel while he rims your anus while making love. That's a good start, but don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. The next thing you need to do is be informed. Pick up a book such as The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
to learn as much as you can about this topic. Never do anything that YOU don't want to do. And basically just talk about it so that you both can be on the same page about it.

I am fairly new to anal sex but I think the key to enjoying, for a women at least, is to have clitoral stimulation. For me, having my boyfried up my ass (alone) is kinda odd feeling and generally doesn't turn me on. The combination of being penetrated anally and having a vibe on my clit definitatley does the trick. Also, the fact that my boyfriend enjoys it so much doesn't hurt either.

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That and following the "how to" here, How To... Enjoy anal sex!

Thank you to everyone for your replies. Holly thank you for directing me to that article, it answered everything I was wondering about.

hey kamp - new here myself but the ladies have been right by you. coming from the man's side of things, his heart will be fine, especially if he truly loves and respects you. that said, my wife was extremely apprehensive after a couple of 'mishaps'. kinda missed and hot the wrong hole. very painful and not fun, it was truly an accident. several years passed and she slowing opened to the occassional finger while astride. then one day while out shopping at the local adult shop I found a very slim silicone anal dildo. it was soft (which really helped, but does make it a little tough to get in sometimes). Lots of lube and patience and her orgasms exploded. She also likes me to be inside her vagina while she rubs her clit, she said it helps relax her mind . anyway, she totally loves it now and often initiates the anal sex. it took her a while to try and take me, a very different sensation (i couldn't stay soft thinking about it, but she eventually did.) We jsut kind moved up to a bigger but still soft CyberCock from there it was just little step up to me. it was the hardness not the size that was most difficult i think. my 2 cents.

if you are not comfortable though, don't just do it for him, he'll get over it! When you are ready it will be mind blowing (at least that's what she said and now I'm curious as hell! - does that make me wierd? lol) Take it slow and use plenty of good lube when you're ready.

good luck and keep us posted!