I think that "Sexy" conveys many different meanings. But in our society, it seems that the smaller you are, the more sexier you are. I personally disagree. When you see some of the European women, they are more robust with rounded hips, fuller faces and pouty lips. Living in Southern California, we are surrounded by "The Beautiful People"(flawless make-up, designer clothing, and wearing size 0 to 2). Keeping fit and trim is ingrained into our daily lives. I sometimes feel that I have failed myself, since putting on extra weight. Can I still be sexy with these changes? Your thoughts....

A size 0 or 2 is too thin (depending of course on the individual's height and structure)! Most women and men prefer a look with a little "meat" to it. I know this from personal experience. I used to be a size 2 and over the past several years have put on some unwelcome weight. I'm now 5 to 6 lbs. heavier than my previous weight. That may not seem like a lot to most of you reading this, but I'm barely 5'5" and have a petite bone structure by most standards. Fitness modeling is also my career, so staying thin is important, or so I thought. All of my friends, family, and aquaintences find my healthier look more desirable. And it hasn't seemed to hurt my career, or my sex life...LOL I personally think women with curves are much sexier than women with straight lines.

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Well, first of all, we need to stop putting such a premium on being skinny, from Victoria's Secret models to Target Store ads to TV commercials. We also should quit the double-standard that seems to apply only to women. I would guess more men are overweight, yet it's treated more as a joke than anything else. I personnally am not turned on by skin and bones. As the years have gone by, I find Eddy to get sexier with each additional pound! Though going too far overweight is not a good idea (health reasons being among the most important), we should all realize that we do age, put on pounds, and need to take it slightly easier than in our teens. However, sexiness comes from being sexy - not from one's weight.

Okay okay, as much as I hate to admit it, I do find the Victoria Secret models to be absolutely gorgeous and sexy. But give me a sec to redeem myself Physical appearance is only a small part of the picture. I've dated a few girls that were as fine as could be, but at the same time was repulsed by them due to personality issues. On the other hand I've dated girls that were by no means "model" quality who I really wanted to get to know better. And to me, that feeling of wanting to know more about them, about what makes them tick, is part of attraction. Society is constantly telling us what "sexy" should be, and too often it is rail thin, skin and bone women (cough, cough...Callista Flockheart...cough). I notice this with my wife, and I think that a lot of you can relate...whenever we fight, how appealing she is, is the furthest thing from my mind, but when things are going great between us, I notice myself admiring her hair, how good she looks in that outfit, etc.

I have to heartily agree, except in the case of Victoria Secret models! Yuck!

I think it comes down to personality. We all look at pictures of amazingly gorgeous ideals of the opposite sex. However, if we were to have met that person, and it turns out they're like really mean and stuff, you wouldn't want anything to do with them anymore.

Maybe I am way off here but physical appearance is of up most importance. If I am not physically attracted to a girl why would I even talk to her? I don't care how much personality a girl had if she was to skinny for my liking or to fat for my liking she would not be sexy to me. I would agree that sexy is not a look it is any attitude, but it has to be combined with that physical appearance that is attractive to you. Further more I don�t think it is OK to go and put on 30 lbs. I know that everyone puts on lbs at some point if their life, but you have to keep it under control. I love my girl friend more then anything in this world, but if she put on 30 lbs I would not want to see here naked. I am sure that if I put on 30 lbs she would not want to see me naked either. That is just life you have to stay attractive to your partner or you can�t be sexy.

Weasel's being a bit judgemental, or you could say he's daring to say what a lot of people think but won't admit out loud.

I see the question a bit differently: I don't judge people on how close they are to some ideal weight, but on their muscle tone and overall vitality.

I go to aerobics classes at my employee fitness center. All but a dozen of the couple of hundred aerobics-goers are women...and sometimes aerobics gets a little repetitive, so I think about this a lot, while surrounded by women of all shapes, sizes and ages who are sweating and grunting hard.

There are women of 50 and 60 (I'm 42) who I find sexier than some of the 20-year-olds. The difference is the way these women move, how fit they look, the colour in their faces and skin because they're physically active.

I don't care how conventionally attractive those 20-year-olds are: If they look like chubby little veal calves and just go through the motions when they're working out, I won't give them a second look.

But some of the regulars who are struggling with, say, extra pounds on their hips, but work hard and have a nice, vital glow about them...I'm on my knees and panting, baby!

Man, JiveAss, you just seem to steal my thunder at every turn. I have been going to the same gym for 15 years and have done aerobics classes the whole time. Shit, the main reason I started taking the classes was because it was so awesome to be surrounded by 20-30 women sweating and moving for an hour. It was intoxicating (for an example of my exeriences, go read "Chasing Amy" in the Writings section of our site).

That said, I agree that I need to be attracted to my partner physically, just as Weasel said. The thing is, though, that as the years have gone by, I see Eddy in a different physical way. Though the scale and her actual age may say differently, my EYES say she's still 21 and killer sexy! I honestly don't notice much difference. I think that love and our commitment have sort of compensated for aging on both our parts and we now see (somewhat) past the physical standards. Sure, if she gained 100 lbs., we'd have a problem; but I would be more concerned with her health than my attraction to her.

I'll admit I gained a few pounds after the kids, but am getting back in shape and down to size 6. Being only 5' tall, I have a lot of womanly curves packed onto a small body, 37-28-38. Luckily my husband likes the curves. Unfortunately, it's the stereotype in the magazines that enthralls most men. We hold outselves to these models of womanhood and often find imperfections in ourselves that aren't even noticed by others. I've been insecure about my body for a long time, but am finally coming to terms with the fact that I will never be a supermodel and my husband loves me anyway.

Wow 85harley! What measurements! I'm jealous! I'm glad to hear that you are feeling good about yourself. It's really important for one's self esteem. Although just raising kids and checking out this site makes you one of the sexiest woman on my list. Hey, we've done that and can appreciate where you are coming from. And by your name I assume you hit the road when you can to feel the wind in your hair. That my dear is pretty sexy. You rock!

Eddy

I agree. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself. I had a tendency in the past to be overly critical if I put on a pound or 2. My husband helped me understand that I viewed myself with a different set of eyes than others did and as a result I have relaxed and now I'm able to be comfortable with my appearance, whether it's being a businesswoman with customers, soccer mom for my 4 year old, or lingerie model for my husband.

I know this post might be old.. but i think it has to do also with yourself, who you are, and how you feel about yourself. Personally i am not thin... hell my pictures are sexy but im NOT under 150lbs and 5'3. I can still be sexy.
The reason i opened this part up right now is because of those dove ads.. i love them, what do you guys think?

What's a dove ad?