I just found this really awesome site and have been hanging around a bit to get my nerve up. So just to warn, my two questions are going to bring an eye-rolling collective "grow up" response and I know that. Anyway, I grew up in a really repressive sexual environment and all the sexuality I have kept pushed down my whole life is just bubbling out and it's fun and scary. One of the reasons is my boyfriend, who, on top of never needing a sports car to compensate ;-) is very open and seems non-judgmental. Well, I am finding through our adventures that while I have a very dominant personality, I really like to be sexually submissive and almost enjoy a paiful aspect to sex that I realized one night when he raked his nails down my back and it turned me on big time. And he being so big and my being small, when he thrusts deeply the pain makes me gasp out loud. I have not really said anything to him or tried to explore it. I am also having a little trouble with the fact that while I really like myself and have a good self-esteem, this is turning me on. Does enjoying this mean I don't value myself? And how would I bring this up to him to explore with him in a way that seems fun and not scary to him or bring out a possible judgment? Okay, and the second question is quite frankly embarrassing, but I figure this site is the place to ask. When I am brought to orgasm I feel this urge to pee REALLY badly. It doesn't matter if I'm alone or with him. He says it is female ejaculation, and even though he knows it freaks me out actally held me down while bringing me to orgasm because I think he was trying to get me to pee on him! haha! Now, I tested this alone and just let things flow so to speak and it looked just like urine. I always go to the bathroom before sex and so I'm just wondering what the deal is. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I really value what y'all think good or bad.

Wow, what a way to get started in here! Glad to have you on board and no need to preface things thinking we'll laugh or taunt you. We're all a pretty open minded bunch with the exception of Freddy who has no regard for anybody's feelings so stay clear of him! LOL

As far as the submissive points go, I'm no really versed in that area as my wife and I haven't explored any of it. However, from what I've read I don't think it's an odd thing at all for people that are normally the dominant types in their daily lives to be submissive. Think about it this way, if you're always the one to be in control, what better way to release all your tensions than to be completely controlled by someone else. I don't think it has anything to do with self value in the least. It's a way for you to find release and pleasure from something normally outside your realm.

For bringing it up to your boyfriend, I think it has to be a controlled and understanding conversation where you communicate what you like and how it makes you feel when he does certain things. Also, if you want, give him permission to take matters into his hands for doing alternate things to you to see if you like them or not or just make additional suggestions. One thing I've always heard is the need for complete understanding on his part that if you preset a "safe" word that it's to all stop at that point and there are no exceptions to the rule.

Finally about the urge to pee. Most often that's associated with a g-spot orgasm and female ejaculation. If this is the case, then it is a natural thing. It will appear like urine in some instances as it can quite literally shoot out of you. It should not have the "yellow" appearance or odor of urine though. If you search the forum for the words "female ejaculation" you'll find quite a lot of information about it.

In any case, welcome to the boards!

Hi and welcome to the boards!

I have a lot I'm thinking about saying here but my brain has been wandering nonstop lately so I can't get it down before the thought escapes. When I can calm that problem, I'll get back to this, I promise!

Buck has a lot of good things to say there, and considering his lack of experience in the BDSM world, he did very well.

Like Buck said, don't worry about eye rolling or any of that. We are very protective of the visitors here, especially when they go outside their comfort zones to ask questions they might be afraid to ask elsewhere. If you don't know the answer but still have the question, then it's a question that deserves to be asked.

I hope you enjoy your stay with us.
~Ang

Thanks for the kind words there Ang. I try to know a little about a lot of things!

Welcome aboard, first of all. If ANYONE gets out of line here, Celt, Rain, Eddy, or myself deletes their asses immediately, so don't worry about getting into embarassing situations or "eyes rolling," as you put it. Just relax, have fun, and speak up when you feel comfortable.

I'll have much more to say later, but right now I have to take our son for a play date for the afternoon.

More soon, but I just wanted to say welcome Scorpiogirl and that the only eye rolling permitted around here is the kind likely to happen when you're in the throes of a supergasm or two. Roll away I say...

OK, I'm back. But posting after ingesting gallons of beer over sushi is just not going to happen. Time to get Eddy in a teddy and get biz-EEEE...

Thanks, Buckshot for your input. I look forward to hearing what Freddy and Herecomestherain have to say. Thanks to all of you for making me feel so welcome!

I've found that everyone ont hsi site is great, welcomes you with open arms and answers all questions with open minds. You had some great questions too. Welcome!