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| <Limbhugger>
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C'mon I know you're out there. Say hello.
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| <Anelize>
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Quote: Are these those same looks of disdain I get at munches? From those oh-so-self-important people *roars with laughter* Oh please woman, stop taking yourself so goddamn seriously and lighten up. There is room for everyone in BDSM. Who died and made you and those "softly disdaining" folk the arbiters for what is and isn't BDSM vs Kink vs Lifestyle vs Whateverthefuck. Whatever happened to "Your Kink is not my Kink but that is OK"??? That is one of the first things I learned when I started into BDSM. Have some fun. Lighten up. Sheesh. ~Anelize |
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| <Freddy>
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Hmmm... maybe a bit harsh for these parts, but I'll watch how it goes from here. LH is the moderator, so it's his call.
I'm still trying to learn all about this fascinating avenue of sexuality and trying to nudge Eddy toward a little more experimentation. And yes, BDSM is "kinky" to us novices, but we consider kinky a good thing (in fact, we think more people could do with a little kink in their lives). I doubt we'll get many hard core BDSM lifestyle devotees to stick around; this is mainly for people wanting to learn more about it. But back on topic; I'm here as a budding "kinkster," or whatever you choose to call it. |
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| <Anelize>
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Quote: Ok. *chuckle* I'll be more circumspect. I just get a little....hmmm...peeved when the BDSM Gods come out to play LOL. Kink is cool. Kink is fun. Kink is what gets alot of people into BDSM in the first place. BDSM is fun. Separating the two is like saying...I don't eat oranges when you're sitting there drinking orange juice, yanno? At least in my ever so humble opinion LOL. I'm damn excited for anyone is in discovery mode...because they are in for some fun times, let me tell you  ~Anelize |
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| <Freddy>
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So please "tell" Eddy! Details, please...
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| <Limbhugger>
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Well hello Anelize. Welcome to the playground, I see you're making friends.
 Cyn, I understand what you are saying but as Anelize and Freddy have pointed out, I was trying to target those folks who may just be beginning to oepn themselves up to various forms of kink. I also believe that BDSM and kink are very strongly tied together but can also be seperate things. One does not have to equal the other but they certainly do mix well. A man/woman may enjoy a golden shower but never engage in D/s but a lot of the people engaged in D/s enjoy using golden showers. Make sense? At the very least thanks to everyone for at least getting this thread going. |
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| <Anelize>
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Quote: Ok. Here's a great example of adding a little power play into your lives. Mild humiliation is something that can be combined with power play in something as simple as a blowjob. Now don't let the word "humiliation" scare you--read on.... Have you ever grabbed her hair when she's giving you head? Have you ever talked dirty to her? If you've done either of those things, you've got the elements of what I'm talking about going already...just combine them in a loving way, at your own pace, talking about what you both would find hot and exciting. Her on her knees in front of you, your hands wrapped in her hair, sucking you off, you calling her your dirty little slut?? Too much? Refine it, work with it, have fun and do what gets you hot. Either way, it's your kink, and what works for you is all good Thus endeth today's details. ~Anelize |
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| <Freddy>
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Do I just "do" it? Or do I discuss the whole thing before she gives me the blow job?
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| <Anelize>
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Quote: The uber-PC answer is to say communication is key. And frankly, in 9 out 10 situations, it is. The 10th situation can be pretty sexy though, but only you know Eddy *wicked little grin.* Could you just spring something like that on her? Are you rock-solid, 100% sure she could handle it, and love it? If so, then, "just do it" and have lots of wonderful cuddles afterwards and talk about how it made you BOTH feel. That's called aftercare in BDSM circles by the way, and it's something that should never be neglected. I love lying there, after a long scene, sore and content, his arms curled around me, talking about how things went--or sometimes we just don't talk at all, we just rest  I look forward to hearing how it went  ~anelize |
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I had a one nighter where the guy pulled my hair and it shocked the heck right outta me until two days after I realised I had actually enjoyed it and now have my cowboy "trained" to pull my hair quite often. He usually runs his hands through my hair and then occasionaly pulls great handfuls of it so I never know exactly when he's going to do it! Great fun.
I'm also a terrible biter but he doesn't like it so I've learnt to bite the pillow instead. He does love spanking me though (that may have something to do with the day he did it and I jumped him)  |
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| <Freddy>
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Well, I'm thinking on the one hand, she reads these posts pretty thoroughly, so now she knows I'd like to do this. But, to tell the truth, I'm just not so sure about diving right in. Maybe it all depends on the situation; sometimes she attacks my cock with a real ferociousness, which might be the perfect time as opposed to the candles and soft music.
We try to follow the after care mantra, especially after a great wet and explosive romp (like last night). As we're total newbies to the BDSM stuff, we've yet to graduate from our pink fuzzy restraints and light strikes with a flogger and riding whip. I kind of like the gag ball, but she doesn't. |
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| <Limbhugger>
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Now see there, Anelize isn't here ten minutes and she's already got folks talking and this post is now on page 2.
Told ya, she's awesome! And remember Freddy, turn about is fair play! |
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| <Anelize>
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Quote: He always has his hands twined in my long hair when I'm going down on him. I love the feeling of his fingers laced through my hair, pulling really hard...it's painful, sexy, hot, and dominating, all at once. That's a defininte expression of dominance in the bedroom. That's one part of D/s. We'll be in Wal-Mart or the mall, or somesuch place, and he'll suddenly decide to change directions or that he wants to look at something else. He'll reach up, and slide his fingers through the bottom of my hair and pull, or subtley snatch my ponytail and pull if I'm wearing it up, and turn me in the direction he wants to go. I like that little feeling of humiliation and power that comes along with him doing that in public. That's a very real expression of his dominance and ownership of me. That's D/s too. ~anelize |
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| <Limbhugger>
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Being the long haired male that I am, and her sub too, I love to have my hair pulled. Beyond the physical sensations there are all the things Anelize has described.
Never, ever, discount the power of humilation. NOTE: Big difference between loving humiliation and spiteful degradation. When I'm wearing my collar and my leash and she wraps her hand in my hair and yanks to my feet without a word, then leads me through the house by my hair. Head tilted and leading my jolting body as I struggle to follow...mmmmmm. Beautiful. |
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Freddy and Eddy freddyandeddy.groupee.net Forums General Discussion The Dungeon Calling All Kinksters
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