While multiple male orgasm is possible anywhere two or more men are gathered and talking, actual male multiple orgasm is another story. Unlike the more established phenomenon of female multiple orgasm, men's claims of successive climaxes can stray into the realm of sex myth. At the very least, male multiple orgasm is difficult to verify and may depend on the definition of orgasm.
Prosterman says that the book The Multi-Orgasmic Man popularized "an Eastern meditative process that involves wrapping the PC [pubococcygeus] muscle around the prostate. There's a valve on the prostate that switches on and off before urination and ejaculation. The PC muscle stops this valve from opening, allowing an orgasm without ejaculation. The idea is to keep doing that five or six times in a row.
"Out of hundreds of guys I know who've tried this," says Prosterman, "I know only one who's been able to do it."
Is this man Mr. Lucky, or just prone to poetic license?
A 1989 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior recorded the testimony of 21 other men who claimed to be multi-orgasmic, but Ira Sharlip says "that doesn't happen," referring to the phenomenon of "multiple orgasms in succession over a short period of time -- like minutes." And there's no such thing as separating ejaculation and orgasm, he says.
What may be at issue here is the definition of orgasm -- which, according to a 2001 Clinical Psychology Review article, has been strikingly inconsistent. "Many definitions of orgasm "depict orgasm quantitatively as a 'peak' state that may not differentiate orgasm adequately from a high state of sexual arousal," the study's authors wrote. In other words, those men who report multiple orgasms may be able to achieve orgasm-esque states before they hit the point of ejaculatory no-return. And many men report that strengthening the PC muscles through Kegel exercises allows them to edge closer to this "point of inevitability" without cresting the mountaintop of ejaculation and descending into the gentle valley of the flaccid and the "refractory" period, where the penis is temporarily unresponsive to sexual stimulation. Even so, both Prosterman and Sharlip say this refractory period can be short enough that it's possible for men to orgasm, ejaculate, recover and do it again -- and again -- during the same "session" of sex.
And if that recovery period isn't super quick, you can still enjoy multiple orgasms -- you may just need to cancel your afternoon appointments
So, I started the Tantra techniques and I have, after a "mishandled" first practice, gotten to the point of no return twice this week-end (wifey up in the mountains with gal-pals so I figured I'd better practice) AND after looking down expecting to see ejaculate, saw nothing!
So what was it that I experienced? Understand that I didn't feel a FULL explosive orgasm but it felt so close to one that I assumed I had.
So - professionals have dismissed the multi-orgasmic man. I'm thinking I'm on the trail head to something good. or am I just reaching an "orgasm-esque" state?
I'll dismiss the nay-sayers and continue to practice, practice, practice.
Rocky
Posts: 61 | Location: Colorado | Registered: 22 April 2007
Hey Rocky, obviously this depends on how one defines "orgasm."
In my own life, I separate orgasm from "ejaculation." Ejaculation, in MY opinion, is a physical occurence that happens IN TANDEM with the mental process of ORGASM. Hence, while I may not physically ejaculate for days (or even weeks) at a time, I do orgasm frequently, during intimate contact with my wife.
I often laugh at our strange need to explain EVERYTHING in scientific detail, breaking it down into compartmentalized units to then be proved or disproved. Orgasm is one of those things that, like life itself, doesn't necessarily have to be understood to be appreciated - over and over - and might be better off left to explore without ever getting to a right or wrong answer.
Agree totally with Freddy - G can orgasm several times in an evening of our making love he will only ejaculate once - if at all. Once he ejaculates end of love making for that night but he can orgasm several times. He will go, as Freddy said, for days or weeks without actually ejaculating and it doesn't bother him at al.It is generally me who will say 'come on go for it' even then he doesn't/can't always :_
In all things be true to yourself
Posts: 1903 | Location: Scotland | Registered: 22 November 2005
Reading through the various threads on the subject – it seemed like Tantra, amongst other benefits, was the best way to help me hone my control.
According to another WebMd article that quotes a 2005 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found "a median IELT ("intravaginal ejaculatory latency time") of 5.4 minutes." Translation IELT = How long a guy can last making love. )
I am – yes I admit it – a <5 minute man in fact WAY < 5 minutes and wanted to do something about it. In my few attempts I think I’m on the way. It is certainly a new feeling.
Posts: 61 | Location: Colorado | Registered: 22 April 2007
In the meantime. I had been wondering, maybe even a little apprehensive as to how I was going to transition from practicing tantra techniques alone to making love with my wife. I started down this study due to my tendency to finish first and way before I really wanted to. We got into this rut of being sure I satisfied her orally, then we’d make love. Anyway, there we were making love I felt the moment arriving. I used the techniques, felt a small orgasm. My wife could feel the sensation as well. She thought I was “done.” au contraire Ma chérie. The difference was – after a small pause – maybe 5-10 seconds I was ready to continue. After another five minutes she was satisfied, and happy. Having and orgasm already – I was happy that she was happy. The amazing things was the next morning, I felt like I was 20 again – I was up and ready to go another round. I’m fifty. This in less then two weeks of “self study”.
Posts: 61 | Location: Colorado | Registered: 22 April 2007