So, I've been wondering of the other wives/women of the great F&E forum, Do you ever get jealous of your man watching porn?

It's a very moody thing for me. Usually I'm ok with D checking out a flick or some pictures on his own time, but I noticed that he'd watched something this morning while I was out and it made me get really... well, I guess jealous.

S

Usually I don't get jealous.
But if I'm feeling particularly unattractive - or he's seemed unattentive, or unresponsive - then all bets are off.

When communication is open, though, and I'm not menstrual, it's not a problem - I like to watch with him.

Depends on the mood I am in. Sometimes I could care less, othertimes I would be abit irritated by it. Prez has cut back on his porn, partly due to we have sucky movies, so for quite a while it has been okay. He did have a time where he was watching alot (alot for us anyway) and it made me mad. I think I was have a rough time during the pregnancy though so for him to be spending time watching porn than helping out was not cool.

I don't think that the Rev watches as much porn as the other guys here. (Of course, if he watches and doesn't tell me... hmmm... hang on...

...nope, he almost always tells me because he gets all hot and bothered and wants to have sex.) When he watches some porn without me, it doesn't bother me. However, I do have a very fleeting "HEY! What the...!?" but then I remind myself that it doesn't mean that he's watching because I don't do it for him and I watch some by myself sometimes too and he thinks it's hot - and I'm not watching because he doesn't do it for me, and turnabout is fair play, so what the heck.

What used to bug me a little (but not really anymore for the reasons I noted above) was when I would find out that he was jacking off when I wasn't around. That doesn't bother me anymore either.

I have no objection to Kiwi watching porn or jacking off when I'm not about - if I get horny and he isn't around, I sure as hell whip out some erotica and take care of myself. So to object to him doing it would be just a little hypocritical.

As far as I'm aware though, it's mainly stills he checks out, and saves the porn flicks for the two of us. It wouldn't bother me if he did watch them though, just saying what my impression was.

If our sex life/relationship was less healthy, then I might have more issues.

I find watching porn alone a very empty and unfulfilling experience - kind of like a one night stand. Sure, it sounds exciting and all that, but it's pretty fleeting and devoid of any sort of emotional response that comes from having that special someone there with you.

It's funny, if I want to masturbate (which I've done maybe twice in the last year), I think of my wife or a past girlfriend - someone with whom I had a connection. Porn just gets tedious and boring unless I watch it with my wife and we can get turned on (or off) together.

G looks at still pix. on his own but so do I - neither of us watches porn movies on our own but I wouldn't be upset if he did

Yup, mainly stills, some clips. I save the movies for the two of us. I prefer the stills because I'm looking for quality stuff, well shot with good lighting and attractive people, preferably giving one another head. Seems most clips you can surf for free are better left unseen. I enjoy the titilation whether or not I feel like having a wank.

Chick prefers the written word, and I enjoy that as well from time to time. I have zero problem with her fantasizing and enjoying herself whenever she feels the need. I think it's a healthy part of one's sex life.

And this goes even if we're having one of those "off weeks". We still quite enjoy eachother and spend a lot of time carressing, cuddling, etc. on a daily basis, and it's all very satisfying to me.

My ex was the jealous type, and it caused a huge problem for us. I always felt when she was being jealous she was saying "I don't trust you," and it bothered me.

It's never about the quantity of sex. I'm just as likely to have a wank whether I'm having a lot of sex, or a little sex. If you're feeling jealous, you should know it's not about you, and it's not a substitute for you. It's in addition, and it's just because it feels good, without anything else needing to be read into it.

Jealousy can lead to a vicious cycle that feeds upon itself. You can distance yourself from someone because you're jealous, causing the person to seek out that which makes you jealous. I'd say set your mind at ease, and if anything be closer and more affectionate rather than being jealous and possibly aloof.

No problems here now that I'm a little more mature. Really no problems with my husband at all. It's funny, he prefers video's, photo's, visual stuff, while I much prefer written words.

I was bothered by it when I was younger with a guy I was with for a while. He would see something on a video and immediately want me to do it as well. I was open to some things but he kept pointing out anal scenes and how much the woman was getting off on it. Maybe so but not my cup of tea. It became a point of contention between us.

If I felt my partner preferred porn to me I'd feel bad.

If we're apart, business trip, incarceration, whatever, and one of us checks out some porn, I'd hope we'd be thinking about each other. Telling each other about it when we talk next. Watching it again together if possible. If I'm with the right woman she headlines in my fantasies, including what's on that screen. And she feels the same in return. If we aren't grooving on that, to the point of sharing, and even being a little possessive of each other? Bummer.

One time jerking off while the wife is away, who knows. Not for me to say. But that's my take, generally.

Oh, and leaving the remote greasy... now that sucks.

I know this question was put to women. But Freddy & Kiwi jumped in, so I did too.

I only see the girlfriend about 3-4 days out of the week, and I need to cum at least 2 times a day to feel normal.

But when shes around we will watch porn together.. ussually just a little bt of it until we are more interested in each others bodies.. I find it a fun way though to encourage her into the mood sometimes ..

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Originally posted by FlyGuy:
I know this question was put to women. But Freddy & Kiwi jumped in, so I did too.

I'm glad to hear some mens' response to this too... I'm not quite sure why I just asked women.

D and I do have good communication and he really doesn't watch that much and never without telling me. We also watch some together and I like to look at stills on my own. It's something that he likes to enjoy once in awhile, and I'd like to give him the permission to go ahead. It freaks me out a little though when I unexpectedly have that jealous reaction to it.

Hmm, what do you think honey?

S

'D' here, the one who apparently inspired this thread, hahaha!

As some of you have pointed out, content on the web, usenet in particular is 98% smut. Before committing to a 300-700meg download, I'll often download a sample or stills if available, and that's what S "caught" me looking at. So *most* of the time these sneak previews aren't for the express purpose of getting off on, not that that doesn't occasionally happen...

S and I have an absolutely wonderful relationship, and a very happy and fulfilling (and pretty regular) sex life. Regardless of how active we are, however, sometimes the mood just strikes to fire the gun. As others have mentioned, the use of pics or flix is never a substitute for the connection experienced with a loving partner. As long as the relationship is in order, stimulating images are just that and not a reflection of dissatisfaction with a partner at all! As long as both parties are fulfilled in the relationship, I don't think that the *occasional* shallow indulgence is a negative thing... I think it's a huge turn on when S, uh... Partakes. And of course, any jpgs or movies are ultimately for both of us to "use" together.

That said, there *was* a time when our relationship wasn't so healthy, communication was lax and I *was* deviously using materials to get off in an escapist sort of way. That is never appropriate and is a selfish and disrespectful way to treat a partner. So this is probably the basis for S's reaction, (although in this instance, no weapons were fired, or even loaded, hahaha!) So however S feels about it is what I need to abide by, and visa-versa I suppose... (But maybe when I go to work I'll leave a little sumpin-sumpin on the screen for you, you naughty monkey!)

D

Dude, rockin post. You are so gonna get a little some after work tonight. Not saying, just...

I wonder if a thread on make up sex would attract any posts. Let me know if so and I'll create it.

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Originally posted by FlyGuy:
I wonder if a thread on make up sex would attract any posts. Let me know if so and I'll create it.

Fly I am sure it would GG