So over the course of the past couple of months Songchick and I have gone through a lot of stress with changes in our work. All has ended up well but there was a while where stress was really damping down our libidos.

We went from an average of sex 5 days a week down to 2 and from our 45-80 min sessions down to half an hour.

Well the stress has gone away but the schedule hadn't really picked back up.

So in true F&E style, we sit down to talk about it.

So both of us agreed that we were loosing a lot of sleep and had lots of aches and pains, sore shoulders and some strained muscles associated with our longer sessions and that we both genuinely enjoy a good time in 30-45 mins.

So were saving the longer times for the weekend and we've made an effort to be more relaxed in those sessions.

So we're up to 4 times a week now usually 2x during the week and 2x on the weekend. It seems like we are much more inclined to initiate if we know where not going to have a marathon starting at 11 pm.

So I guess what I am trying to say is...Sometimes less is better.

This message has been edited. Last edited by: Heroic,

It would be ok to have a marathon starting at 11pm when the next day didn't have any appointments or commitments.

Part of what is enjoyable about a session for me is the beginning, middle and end, foreplay sex and the mutual happy exhaustion afterward. When you are noticing the time while you're doing the deed, which ever way it is done, is never a good thing.

I've noticed that talking about it helps, but also switching it up, position wise, or even sex to just foreplay... but still pleasing one another, helps too.

I once just played a 69 for almost 2 hours, rolling around and enjoying his naked body against mine.. depends on what your enjoyment factors are.. but it's worth a shot.. right?.. Try it.. ya might like it !

Kathy

I agree with Heroic -- We are about the same schedule. Quality above quantity. My wife, being a teacher is much too tired during the week. The alarm goes off at 5:00 AM. Mrs MJ is off and running at a little after 7:30 when her students start arriving for help. We are normally beat by 10:00 (with a lot of stuff still to do).

Weekends are a different matter. And summer vacation (and to a to a lesser extent Christmas Vacation) is a different world all together. I have always said the best aphrodisiac is a good nights sleep.

We also make dates on special weekends to go away and reconnect (in a lot of different ways ).

Plus with less of our awake time dedicated to the physical we can concentrate on the emotional, checking in and reconnecting daily.

MJ

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From the London Times OnLine

Would-be parents advised to have sex daily to improve sperm quality

MJ