Hello everyone. We are a new couple here. My wife and I have been married almost 19 years, which I think is great for this day and time. Also my wife is 15 years older than I am, that does not bother me, she is beautiful, smart funny and I love her to death. Our sex has kinda hit a rut, we need something new, any suggestions?...

Welcome -- There are many many suggestions here to help spice your life. USe the search or just brows through the threads.

MJ

My DH and I will celebrate 19 years tomorrow, as a matter of fact, so I can understand where you're coming from.

There ARE some great ideas on this site, as well as some links to naughty videos.

Personally, to spice things up a bit for you, I would also suggest:

Toys that both of you could enjoy - pocket rockets (clitoral stimulator) and the like, are great starter toys, if you don't already have your own treasure trove...

You can also experiment with some role play - this can get a bit pricey, depending on if you'd like to add a costume. You've got the standards - the naughty school girl, the maid, etc. It can be a lot of fun just getting away from yourself for a bit, and pretend to be someone else ...

One of my fave books is "Ride 'Em Cowgirl", which F & E have now started carrying (yay!). This is meant to be read together, I think, and the book gives all manners of new and exciting positions you may be willing to try!!

Good luck and happy playing!!!

Thanks, she has enough toys to open her own store. We have had threesomes before but it is very hard to find a single bi-lady...lol. I think she may want to go to the more daring side and see what happens.

Well welcome Saffy and Spooky! Saffy has some great ideas for newbies,but it looks like Spooky has been playing for a bit now. How about looking into something a bit different like checking into something like Tantra or light BDSM? Maybe even have your partner take up Pole Dancing or Burlesque for her own sexy fun! Lots out there!

Eddy thanks, but our problem is time. Just not enough of it. Tantra sounds great but where do we start?

I just wacthed Freddy's video yesterday:

http://www.wonderhowto.com/how...ied-sex-life-168209/

My husband used to insist to watch TV in the bedroom until really late hours to "wind down" after work and our sex life suffered for it. One day I just took it out all together and now we do it every day almost.
Sometimes the solution to more time is as simple as that.

Time together should always be the most important thing but in today's world it's very difficult. I understand; but personally I think looking outside; even though exciting, may be more time consuming and fleeting.

I think the Tantra thing would be great for you!
Here's something informative I found:

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/

and since you don't mind company maybe you can get a special Teacher in the subject

http://www.goddesstemple.com/ceremonies/about.htm

best of luck,
-Jill

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One day I just took it out all together and now we do it every day almost.

you have to make it a rule......the bedroom is for two things. once that's agreed to, things just happen.

I agree Ajay once you start using the bedroom for work and work related stuff it is all down hill on the relationship front... We don't have a TV at all - haven't had for years.