So I just got this book, "Female Ejaculation & the G Spot" by Deborah Sundahl. FE is something I have not yet achieved, nor does my G spot feel particularly sensitive. I know it's there because I can feel it with my finger but it doesn't feel like anything to me. I have a friend who can FE whenever she wants to, and never really had to "try" to make it happen, it just does.

I am curious who of the gals out there have experienced FE, if you had to "work" at it or if it just happened, and what you did to get yourself there if you had to practice. I'm intrigued! My guy is very into the idea... how about you gents?

I'd really like to but it's never happened yet. It's definitely on the list of things to achieve, though.

~Ang

It took a while to achieve the first few times, but now my hubby can make me FE almost every time I orgasm. It is great but also very messy!!!! The other night we had to completely change the bedding because it was soaked!! I cannot FE on my own! I have tried over and over and it does not happen without hubby. He just has the right touch Maybe he can post how he does it; I will ask him. Lately I have been feeling like there is something wrong with me since I FE so much, and so much comes out. Maybe more people can reply with the experiences they have had?

I FE, not every time but most times. Some times it is just a little squirt but I have been known to soak G. and the bedding. A lot of medics claim it is just urine - nope this is entirely different, smell and taste wise.

As for the G spot, most women have to be very aroused before they really respond to this being touched. Get him/her to kiss, fondle, lick, generally arouse you to the point where you are going 'ape' then they should insert two fingers into your vagina curling upwards and massage hard in a sort of 'come hither' motion. G. penis works fine too but to start with fingers have more sense of where to massage. Remember this can also be painful if it happens before the woman is fully aroused.

Also that what works for one woman will not necessrily work for another!

I've heard that it's actually urine. I used to stop myself before I reached that point because I was scared that it was, now I just let myself enjoy it. It doesn't happen very often, but it is really intense when I do.

There are masses of sites out there explaining the differnce between female ejaculate and urine - this one seems to make sense.

http://www.holisticwisdom.com/services_female-ejaculation.htm

Hmmm. I always get very wet, beginning with foreplay, and get even more so as I am fucking. By the time I am finished, I am sheet-soaking sopping wet! But as for an "ejaculation" of the sort men have? Not even close. Nor have I ever seen another woman ejaculate during group play.

The first time I saw a male ejaculate was rather amusing. I was 17, and a boy friend and I began playing around on a blanket out near a lake. I was ready to fuck him (my virginity had gone bye-bye months earlier) but RATS: he did not have a condom. So we ran an awful risk, one that I do not recommend: I told him to go ahead and fuck me, but to be damned double sure that he took his penis out of my pussy before he ejaculated.

After ten minutes or so, he said, "Oh, damn it, I am about there," and he pulled his cock out of my pussy and laid back on the blanket. I had not climaxed, so I put my hand on my pussy and fingered and stroked myself and watched him as he played with his dick. (First time I had seen a guy masturbate: interesting, and it turned me on even more.) And, in less than two minutes, out gushed what seemed to be a volcano eruption of cum. His load must have gone 18 inches up into the air and splashed down on his legs and tummy. I was stunned into silence! There were several mini "after squirts" that went maybe an inch or so out of his cock then it just sort of throbbed and oozed. All I could do was to shake my head in awe and say, "Damn!" And I found myself wishing I could make the same sort of splash. Well, I never have, but I love my orgasms the way they are, and I ain't a'complainin', by any means.

I still get a kick out of watching a man ejaculate, with his cock out in the open. My husband says that when he was a kid, he and other teens would have a contest to see who could shoot the fartherest. Now that would be a good subject for Wide World of Sports!

Y'all have a glorious 2006, and may the sex be plentiful and fun.

K

Heh, we seem to have that same fun with male orgasm. Depending on the mood I've been known to go quite the distance including hitting the headboard and wall on occasion which is a good 2-3' from the source.

FE ~ yes it is something we had to work at!!!

We actually found Freddy&Eddy, when looking for information on G~spot orgasms and FE.

We perfected the G~spot orgasms first, then worked on FE. I can manage to give myself a pretty darn good g~spot orgasm, but can't manage to get myself to spurt yet!(Still working on it though ).

I think J will agree(I'll hand you over to him in a minute), but to me it seems to be a case of spending time doing your homework, finding out the theory and then putting it into practise. It did not work first, or second time. The first time I had an FE, there was not alot of fluid produced and I was also a little bruised ! However, after working at it for a while J knows exactly what to do to maximise effect!!!

I too have had the expertience of having to get up after a long shagging and ejaculating session to change the sheets, on more than one occassion!

FE is not something, in my experience, that you can just go for, you really need to be in the mood for it. I find it best when J has been teasing me and I am really hot!!!

G

J - All of the above. G being turned on is definately the big thing that makes the difference between a little trickle and a sheet soaker. But you cant do it without the basic technique. So get some background and enjoy practicing. But the best results will come with a combination of good technique and high levels of arousal.

P.S. Its great to have G FE into my mouth It's on my top 10 sex moments of 2005.

J

Well, as I wrote earlier today, I do not ejaculate. I do have serious multi-orgasms and I am fortunate enough to have a husband -- and some select friends - who give me all the sex I want, on a regular basis.

So, the question: is finding out how to ejaculate worth all the bother? I mean, aside form having juice squirt from my cunnie, what do I accomplish? My husband says he is satisfied with me the way I am, and my other partners, both male and female, say the same.

So, interesting, and go for it if you wish. But feel inadequate if you do not gush.

K

From what we have read, I'm not sure if all women can. It took us quite a while to actually achieve FE, I mean weeks/months, not days!!!

It is worth it, however, I don't think it would be something to feel inadequate about if you didn't spurt. I personally found the idea a big turn on. It is a different type of orgasm, it doesn't feel the same. It is not better or worse, just different, very intense.

I like having breadth and range in my sexual activities and for us, achieving FE added to this!

I told my sister about it and she thought that FE just sounded horrible and she really doesn't fancy it and she is reasonably adventurous (but if I told you and she found out, I would be dead!!!), so it isn't that she doesn't 'try' new things. So, I guess that it is worth a try if you fancy it, but it is not worth stressing about if you don't!

G

I can! I can!

...but not all the time, and certainly not with every guy I've been with. It takes a certain amount of excitement, and a certain amount of talent on his part.

I discovered I had this unique talent when a boyfriend went down on me in my truck, in a parking garage, of a very posh and swank shopping/entertainment area. After experiencing one of the most powerful orgasms ever, he came up and announced I just squirted all over his face. I was embarassed as hell, but he had told me that he heard of woman who could do it, but never experienced it in person. He was happy that he could finally realize his dreams and have a woman give him a facial.

I could go forth into the world having made the difference in someone's life. Yay.

I don't know that every woman *can* do this (the particular book I am reading says it is possible) or that every woman would *want* to. I think it is just another aspect of sexuality and, from what I have heard and read, a great one. Example: I am not into anal but there are those who would tell me I'm really missing out. Anal is also something that people have to practice with to get the feel for. Same with FE, I think. To each, their own. This is something that intrigues me greatly, although I will in no way feel "inadequate" if I don't achieve it...I certainly don't feel "inadequate" now!

I have heard -- from my friend with the talent and from headhurt/G above -- that the orgasms are more intense or at least different. So why not try for it? Hey, at least the experimenting to get there will be fun!

I am intrigued by the idea of FE also. I have the same book by Sundahl, but I haven't had much time to read it. I have practiced a couple of her excersizes, but not with any success.

I've had a few good G spot O's, but they've all been with the Fun Factory Worm. I may be alone on this, but I definitely needed to be by myself for it to work the first time.

Next week my parents are going to be babysittng our boys for our 10th anniversary though, so I'm sure we'll work on FE a little more then. Hopefully with some sheet changing results!

S

I honestly don't think this is something you 'work on' like exercising you PC muscle. It is something that suddenly happens, or doesn't, you have to be really, really aroused and able to let yourself go totally - just thinking about the need to do something would be enough to ensure it didn't happen.