Hi everyone, newbie here. Love this place been reading for a while.

Anyway, my wife and I have been married happily for 7 years, we have great sex, we feel it can get even better as the years go on and experiment more, one thing that has come up lately is a threesome/foursome.

We have a couple we are friends with and it seems there is some sexual tension going on between us. We constantly joke/flirt about sex, and our wives have kissed quite sexually one night when things got a little crazy during some cards/wine.

So basically right now we are at a point where everyone is pretty much thinking it but we seem to be at a wall where no one knows how to take that next step or what that next step will entail.

My wive and I thought one way to step it up to happen would be for all of us to go out of town for the night and stay in a hotel and party together, see what happens.

But still we are going crazy wondering how to start it, what positions, and who with who?

We have both discussed this and both want to try it at least once just for the experience and see from there.

But it seems a little awkward, anyone have any insight as to how to take it to the next level?

I know our wives would probably start making out then having sex, and letting us watch but from there I am not sure.

I guess it's one of those things that you just have to let happen, just looking for some tips or stories to learn from before we take the plunge.

I do worry that our sex life together alone may feel dull after doing something like this, as it would be so much more exciting due to the unknown

I hope I make sense, it's late

let whatever is going to happen, happen. don't expect too much the first time. it's usually quick and not very pretty.


and welcome to our community!

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Lol, I think Ajay is right here.

I really would not worry about positions and procedures. If the thing "happens" the logistic will sort itself out I guess.

I would be more worried about how to fit an episode like this in the context of your friendship with the other couple. I am not saying that it is not got to work, or that it will ruin all, mind well. It may very well work out fine for everyone involved. But it could do with some serious thinking about. May be a nice relaxed chat with these other guys in front of a nice ice-cream-cake and sherry beforehand?

I think the very difficult thing for me would be to establish a serene communication between all the parties involved, rather than picking positions. Think of it.

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So basically right now we are at a point where everyone is pretty much thinking it but we seem to be at a wall where no one knows how to take that next step or what that next step will entail.

Tread lightly, here, Frizzy. My wife and I have had ample opportunities to make this fantasy come true and have left them in the realm of fantasy. Learn all you can by cruising websites, reading books, and even watching DVD's on it (we can loan you one if you contact us via PM).

Also, here's a section on swinging from our website that can help you in our How-to writings.

I agree with Eddy. I would add Communicate communicate communicate. Did I mention communicate?

One thing my husband and I have learned in the year we've been swinging is to always be true to yourselves, who you are as a couple. You get to make your own rules, so don't do (or not) just because someone else says that what everyone does.

lifestylelounge.com has a really helpful q&a section, not to mention a really cute video on the front page!

Good luck.