I've never been to a strip club. Never really seriously thought about going to one. My wife an I have joked about it but never really got serious. We're on vacation in Myrtle Beach and she sounds like she really wants to go to a strip club for a show just to see what it's like. Can you give us any tips for making it fun and comfortable for both of us? We're not looking to hookup or do anything beyond watching the dancers and have a good time. Does anyone have any good recommendations for clubs in Myrtle Beach?

Good question! B and I went once. We went with another married couple, and two solo guys (one was married and his wife was traveling, the other was single). The other couple and us decided to go along with the married guy, who suggested it. I admit, I had had a few drinks, but I probably would have agreed had I been sober too.

All of us went, and we just sat and watched the dancers (all of them were pretty good looking, it was not a sleazy place). The other wife and I loved watching them, it was fun to see what moves they did, it actually looked like a lot of fun! The dancers seemed more comfortable around our group, probably because the other wife and I were there. I think if it's just a group of guys, it can give off a different vibe. If you have a lady with you, it shows you aren't...well, I'm not sure.. maybe a creepy possible stalker? lol.

The guys all pitched in and got the other wife and I lap dances with the ladies of our choice. Neither of us were really sure what to do with our hands (we know guys aren't allowed to touch but they were literally ALL OVER us). It was fun, and the guys really liked watching us with two hot women over us.

I'd say let your wife take the lead. If she wants to go near the stage and watch, great! If she wants to sit at a table and watch at first, that's cool too. Get HER a lap dance if she wants, she may get ideas and give you her own version later It might be weird getting one for yourself unless she gives the green light. That may sound kind of like a double standard, but some women (myself included) are a little possessive, even though we know that the dancers are just doing their job. I'd rather he got me one, and got revved up for later that evening

I would definitely go to another one with him, I appreciate a beautiful lady too Makes for a very hot night after!

I've never been to Myrtle Beach, so unfortunately I don't have any recommendations. Check online though, Google may have some listings. Good luck, and let us know how it went!

If you're on vacation, ask the front desk. The locals will know where you can go and there's no shame as you'll probably never see these people again. Then grab a cab and they'll know where you need to be.

JSGirl and I have gone to several and she loves them (and always has loved them) like crazy. We go to one (elsewhere) where there's at least 50 girls, they're all amazing looking and the lapdances are full touch.

Go and sit in the back and let your wife decide if she's cool with moving up or sitting at the stage or whatever. I've never seen a stripper not get fiesty when there's a girl in the audience. I've seen a girl get half undressed and almost molested by a stripper and JSGirl has been groped and fondled both upstairs and down by strippers.

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Get in the yellow pages and call a few. Ask them, what's the courtesy there, the rules, how much do they expect you to spend, stuff like this. I'm going to recommend the bigger the better. It's easier to relax if it's a dinner thing with lots of people, than just a dozen people watching one pole over warm bud light.

The bigger places usually are easier on the door scams, if you were in mexico, sometimes it's risky, like, you go in, and you aren't allowed to leave until you pay $300 for 'full-service'. If you refuse, you spend the night in jail.

Like they say, take it slow, and if all you want to do is watch for a while and leave, it's still fun.

I have also never been to a strip club and my wife actually suggested we go for my 40th birthday which is coming up.

Seems like a some what frustrating way to spend an evening, but who knows, it could be great foreplay.

SL

I took my husband to a strip club a few years ago. He had, of course, been to them many times - but never with me, or anyone he had been in a relationship.

He said he felt awkward, and was pretty embarrassed. But he was doing his best to play it cool.

His brother and his wife tagged along. I feel this was probably part of the problem with us feeling a little uptight. But that was pretty much forgotten by me after a few drinks. It was not the swankyest place, but it was clean and respectable. My sister in law and I were the only 2 women in the place that weren't strippers - and we got a lot of attention from them. The guys, not so much...hehhe

I bought him a lap dance from a girl we both picked out. It was sexy, but it would have been much better if we had opted to go back to the private rooms - I wasn't sure what those were there for while we were there. I thought they must be having sex back there, but hubby assured me after we left that it was just a more intimate lap dance...hmmm, what does that mean?

We went to a hotel after and fucked each others brains out. Yes shylurker, great foreplay indeed.

I only wish I had gotten a lap dance from one of the girls myself. I didn't really desire it at the time. But now I think I might like to try one. Especially if it is a full touch one.

Last night I did a guys' trip to San Jose for the strip bars, and I did a lot of homework first. (I wanted to go to the best clubs, not keep going to one after the other until I found the one I liked.) I learned a few things.

When you go, depending on the type of club, there are varying levels of contact. The strongest LEGAL type, is where dancer can touch you, but you can't touch her. (This is usually in the back rooms.) Some guys go to strip clubs, and get mad when they don't get more contact than that, either because they heard somewhere or experienced previously that if you wink at a girl, she will break the rules. The girls who are willing to break the rules, (or meet you outside to go home with you for $200) are breaking the law under vice statutes and are probably addicts. If you go, just accept it for what it is and don't dig for more. There are a couple of places in SF (I don't think I should say exactly where in the open) that have a reputation for giving full-service in the back rooms, and if you go to many strip clubs OUTSIDE the U.S. (Mexico in particular) then sex is often part of the package. (But you have to be VERY careful. Just as often, you are asked to pay $2-300 for full service, and if you refuse, you get arrested.)

The barrier I feel with taking Jill to one, is that they are all dirty, in one way or another. It's ok when it's just the guys (Especially the soldiers and musicians I hang out with,) but when I have her, I know she would be getting the heebs about the ancient decor, the creepy old guy at the end of the bar with a stack of ones, and the runs in the girls' stockings. You TRY to find really upscale places, but the truth is, some of them just cover it up better than others. You have to understand going in that this is the nature of the business. (And have a few drinks to loosen yourself up a little.)

I got a table dance from a great girl last night, and I was thinking; "Jill would LOVE to watch this." She says that under the right circumstances, she might watch me get one sometime. I really want HER to get one, but I don't know if we'll ever get that far.

Here's a piece I did for the LA Weekly:

Strip Club Etiquette

With perhaps the highest number of strip clubs per square mile than any other place on earth, Los Angeles offers a dizzying array of adult entertainment venues, ranging from huge upscale gentlemen’s clubs all the way down to small seedy dumps visited by loyal locals. This guide offers a few destinations that tip toward upscale and eccentric, with a nod to some of the cherished “old school” joints filling in the blanks. No matter which club you choose, however, there are certain rules that everyone should follow, lest you receive that well-timed slap to the face, kick to the groin, or beer in your lap.

What a Strip Club Isn’t

First, a strip club is a place to watch live naked girls disrobe; it is NOT a place to pick up girls or get laid, nor is it a great place to masturbate or take a first date. No matter how many people claim to have picked up a stripper and had his way with her, they’re lying. The girls are there to make money – period – so if one can convince you she’ll put out to part you and copious amounts of cash, she’ll put in an Oscar-worthy performance to do so.

Preparation and Cost

Though many, if not most, clubs don’t require a dress code, show some class and put on your nice threads. A jacket, nice shoes, collared shirt, etc. should be standard issue and will pay off with nicer treatment from the club’s staff and, most importantly, the girls. Expect to spend an average of $30-40.00 per hour while you’re there for drinks and tips, with extra allowance for lap dances if you find a performer you particularly enjoy. It’s not a bad idea to tip the bouncer on the way in as a friendly gesture, and buying a drink for the DJ if you like his sets can’t hurt, either. Unless you’re name is P-Diddy, stay away from the VIP areas (and infamous Champagne rooms), which will gain you little over staying in the regular areas of the club and can cost you hundreds of dollars over the course of a typical evening.

Touching

Due to a myriad of local ordinances aimed at preventing prostitution, clubs have a “touch and go” policy, meaning you touch a girl, you go. If you’re at the stage during dances, keep your hands to yourself and wait for the girl to motion for the tip before slipping it carefully into the band on her g-string. If you’re getting a lap dance, sit nicely while she does her thing and let her direct the experience. If you’re a regular or great tipper, she may take your hands and put them on her boobs or behind, but it’s strictly up to her. Reaching out for a quick grope will find you impolitely shown the door by that friendly bouncer you tipped on the way in.

Drinking and Nudity

The laws in LA dictate that no alcohol may be served when any nudity is involved, meaning overpriced soda, coffee, bottled water, and energy drinks only. Bikini bars, where the girls strip suggestively only to their undergarments or lingerie have no such restrictions, so you can drink whatever their liquor license allows. In many cases, there will be a bar directly across the street or strategically nearby where you can grab a cocktail before heading into a nude strip club. If you decide to get wasted before you enter a club, beware; being drunk is likely to result in lots of money being spent (strippers can smell a sucker miles away), or a misplaced grope leading to a hard crash on the pavement when the bouncer throws you out. It might be a good idea to eat beforehand, as most strip clubs don’t serve food.

Tipping

Most girls are not paid by the clubs in which they perform; they are independent contractors who must part with a percentage of their lap dance and may even have to pay a fee up front to work the better shifts. If you sit at the stage during dances, you are expected to tip, whether or not you like the girl, her dance, or her outfit. Keep plenty of dollar bills handy and show your preferences by tipping a couple of extra bills to girls whose performances or looks you like best. If you decide to get a lap dance, expect to pay about $15-20.00 per song (maybe two). Though it’s not necessary to tip on the lap dance, do so if you feel she was particularly enthusiastic or exceeded your expectations.

Helpful Hints

• If you’re going with a large group, call ahead to let them know you’re coming and ask if they’ll waive any cover charges. Most clubs are very accommodating and will at the very least provide a good discount. If they won’t call around to other clubs who will.
• Unless you’ve been together awhile and/or you’re positive your date is not a prude, don’t take a date to a strip club. Contrary to popular belief, you will not be treated better for having a girl with you and your fantasy of a lesbian tryst after hours will not materialize.
• Unless you fly to Vegas during a busy convention, you will not be treated to a club full of Playboy bunnies and supermodels at most strip clubs. More likely, there will be a couple of stunners, some attractive, yet pudgy performers, a couple of overweight, yet game gals, and one or two downright ugly girls (maybe even a midget). Show respect to all of them.
• If a girl approaches you to “buy her a drink,” beware that this is sometimes a scam to get you to pay $30-40.00 to do just that.
• Don’t be afraid to be vocal. The girls are there to part you and your money, never forget that. Therefore, it’s up to you how you wish to be parted with your currency. If a girl is putting the hard press to get you to buy a lap dance and you don’t want one, politely tell her “Maybe later,” and have her move on.
• Finally, if you have a great story, share it, then ask for one in return. Strippers have the greatest stories and you’ll be rewarded for asking.

Slight update,

Having spent two weeks in Paris, I decided to spend some time lurking around the red light district. (Metro 2, Pigalle.) First of all, I had a legit reason to go, it's also where the best guitar shops are.

First and foremost, USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM. These clubs have hustlers by the front door who will grab you and lead you in. If you walk toward the door with them, they will assume that it's a done deal, and will NOT let you leave easily. (They got mad when I pushed past them.) I'm glad I left, because it's pretty easy to guess, that if they are that forceful about the deal, you aren't leaving until you're broke. So, besides going with someone, don't take a lot of cash with you, because they will plan on taking it all. The girls I glimpsed through the door weren't worth the risk. (It was daylight on a weekday.)

There was also a Museum of Erotica for 8E, but I looked in toe window, and decided that I probably wouldn't see anything that surprised me. The Moulin Rouge is there, and looked much safer, but it's a Cabaret show, not really a strip club. Tickets with dinner and champagne started at about 120E. Lots of peep shows, book stores, and sex shops. The couple I walked through were very vanilla and disappointing.

I did splurge and go to the Crazy Horse, (also a Cabaret,) which is NOT in the red light, it's walking distance from downtown, on George V. It was 100E for an 11:30 show and a 1/2 bottle of Tattinger, which I thoroughly enjoyed. There were couples of all different ages and classes, but it was mostly middle-ages medium wealthy tourists. There were a couple of other single guys and Japanese businessmen, everyone very friendly. The show was very safe, and a bit surreal. The ladies are of identical body shape, natural, and lined up so that the tallest girls are centered. Their poise and detail is fantastic. They had a few group numbers, a few duets, and I'm pretty sure each girl had their solo number. It was thoroughly enjoyable and flawless, but it was more like enjoying a well-rehearsed halftime show. They close the curtain at the end of the last number, reopen it, and their g-strings are gone. Good, yes, but not what Motley Crue makes it sound like at all.